{"id":1969,"date":"2023-02-26T15:58:37","date_gmt":"2023-02-26T15:58:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=1969"},"modified":"2023-02-26T15:58:37","modified_gmt":"2023-02-26T15:58:37","slug":"if-a-girl-ignores-you","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/if-a-girl-ignores-you\/","title":{"rendered":"If She Ignores you Do &#8220;THIS&#8221; &#8211; She Will Never Expect It"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating <\/a>&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; If She Ignores You<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: February 24, 2023<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/is-she-ignoring-you-or-just-busy\/\">Is She Ignoring You or Just Busy?<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/no-contact-rule\/\">The &#8220;No Contact&#8221; Rule (how to use it)<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">The #1 Way to Have Power Over Girls<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1970\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Thumbnail_3-1024x576.png\" alt=\"what to do when a girl ignores you\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Thumbnail_3-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Thumbnail_3-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Thumbnail_3-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Thumbnail_3.png 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>\u00a0What to Do When a Woman Ignores You<\/h2>\n<p>When a girl isn&#8217;t replying to your message&#8230; or if you asked her to hang out, and she&#8217;s not getting back to you&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Or maybe a woman has just <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\">&#8220;pulled back&#8221; her interest and attention<\/a> and there is something different and you start freaking out inside&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>How do you handle when a woman&#8217;s ignoring you?<\/p>\n<h2>What can you do that she&#8217;ll never expect&#8230;<\/h2>\n<p>We&#8217;ve all been there, staring at our phone, that anxious feeling, <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/text-slow-down-interest\/\">wondering why she still hasn&#8217;t texted us back.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>And it can be paralyzing, where nothing else seems to matter except waiting for her reply,<\/p>\n<p>And then if you&#8217;re like I was&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You start analyzing what&#8217;s going on, what could have happened, what changed&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And there&#8217;s almost this feeling of I&#8217;ve got to reach out to her&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If only I can get her on the phone or get her to meet in person, I can <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/regain-upper-hand-with-girl\/\">re-create that spark<\/a>, I can get her interested again&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever had that feeling? Like she&#8217;s slipping away and YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING QUICK&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Now, I work with guys all the time, and its in THIS MOMENT, that the neediness and desperation takes over&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And they send the double text, &#8220;just making sure you got my last message&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Or they just can&#8217;t help asking her if they did something wrong&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Or sometimes, they decide that a confession of feelings or a gift or flowers will somehow make it all right.<\/p>\n<h2>Do NOT Do This When a Woman Ignores You<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iyb5w6VsdE8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/unlock-the-scrambler-system\/\"><strong>Discover the &#8220;Scrambler&#8221; Technique to Get Her Back<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now if you&#8217;ve done any of these things you know they NEVER work&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>But for a lot of guys, this uncertainty around waiting for her to reply or wondering if its over or why she&#8217;s ignoring us&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>TRIGGERS them to start acting needy, it triggers an underlying desperation inside them&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And neediness, desperation, are two of the most unattractive traits that you can display&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>And here&#8217;s the thing&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2>Neediness or Desperation NEVER Gets Her Back<\/h2>\n<p>There&#8217;s NOTHING you can do from a place of neediness or desperation that will ever get a woman back.<\/p>\n<p>I call it being in &#8217;emotional quicksand&#8217;, and you&#8217;re going mess up.<\/p>\n<p>So what&#8217;s the anecdote.<\/p>\n<p>Here it is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You want to react in the complete OPPOSITE WAY.<\/p>\n<p>And when a woman ignores you or withholds her attention from you, instead of it being a trigger for your unattractive behavior, or triggering your unattractive traits to rear their UGLY HEAD&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You want to make a shift&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And use it to REMIND YOU of <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/traits-girls-chase\/\">the most attractive trait you can display to any woman<\/a>&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And that trait is autonomy.<\/p>\n<h2>&#8220;THIS&#8221; Is the Definition of Confidence with Women<\/h2>\n<p>Autonomy means your self governing, independent, you&#8217;re on your own path.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re NOT controlled by anyone, you&#8217;re happiness doesn&#8217;t rely on a girl&#8217;s opinion or approval of you&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ve got a destination you&#8217;re heading towards, and a woman&#8217;s opinion of you or her reaction fo you, can NOT change your path, it can&#8217;t prevent you from going where you&#8217;re going.<\/p>\n<p>Autonomy is the definition of confidence. Because YOU KNOW you&#8217;ll be ok no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>This is the attitude we should be continually striving for&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>NOT just because it makes us more attractive to women, but because it will take us further in life than any other attitude.<\/p>\n<p>Now, when I work with a client, he tells me, I want to be autonomous. He&#8217;s working on it, he gets it.<\/p>\n<p>But really, the only way we can PRACTICE being autonomous is when we&#8217;re placed in a situation that TESTS US.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s cruelly ironic, but it&#8217;s TRUE.<\/p>\n<h2>We Must Be &#8220;TESTES&#8221; to Be Confident<\/h2>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a fact of life, we NEED TO BE TESTED, for our true characteristics to come out.<\/p>\n<p>Its easy to be confident and autonomous and non needy when things are going well, right?<\/p>\n<p>This is why I tell clients, a lot of times, whether its consciously or unconsciously a woman will test a man by PULLING BACK to see how he responds&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Does he turn into a little butt hurt wuss when she ignores him for a day?<\/p>\n<p>Does he turn into another an ass-kissing &#8220;nice guy&#8221;?<\/p>\n<p>The only way she knows if a guy is really autonomous, if he&#8217;s really as confident as he&#8217;s portraying&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-women-test-men\/\">Is to TEST HIM<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a valuable mindset that you want to be aware of&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2>Be &#8220;Antifragile&#8221; with Women<\/h2>\n<p>So there&#8217;s a book, called <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Antifragile\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Antifragile<\/a>, by Nassim Taleb, who&#8217;s sort of a philosopher on randomness, probability and uncertainty..<\/p>\n<p>And the big premise of the book is:<\/p>\n<p>Fragile items break under stress, antifragile items get better and stronger from it.<\/p>\n<p>And that the most successful people, businesses, the most successful anything, are things that are anti fragile, things that TRRIVE on disorder, stress, and chaos.<\/p>\n<p>So, what does this concept of Antifragile have to do with you?<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what it means, here&#8217;s how its relates to dealign with a woman who&#8217;s ignoring you or pulling away..<\/p>\n<p>You want to use this stress that she&#8217;s causing you, this uncertainty and CHAOS you&#8217;re feeling, and you want to use it to make you stronger and MORE ATTRACTIVE.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of the stress of waiting for her to reach out to you triggering your neediness and desperation, USE IT TO TRIGGER AUTONOMY.<\/p>\n<p>Use it as a reminder to get back on your path, to do something that moves you towards your bigger goal in life.<\/p>\n<h2>Do SOMETHING That Makes You More Attractive<\/h2>\n<p>And don&#8217;t just be reminded of it, DO SOMETHING that makes you stronger&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Take a RISK with another girl, take a chance&#8230; turn to another woman you see and start a random conversation&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And REMIND YOURSELF that if it doesn&#8217;t work out with her, there are millions of other women out there in the world&#8230;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Or listen to a podcast that teaches you something you can use to move forward in life&#8230;<\/li>\n<li>Read a book, practice another language&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Do ANYTHING to REAFFIRM Your autonomy.<\/p>\n<p>Make sense?<\/p>\n<p>Now, you might say, how will this get her back? How will she even know I&#8217;m doing these things&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>WAIT FOR IT&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>AUTONOMY isn&#8217;t about doing these things for HER&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re only doing it for her, she is CONTROLLING YOU, and that means you&#8217;re NOT autonomous, and you&#8217;ll probably never get her anyway..<\/p>\n<p>You DO IT FOR YOU.<\/p>\n<p>Now, a side effect is that it naturally makes you more attractive to girls.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know how, but they have this sixth sense, that tells them how needy you are, or how upset you were when she didn&#8217;t call&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;.Or how HOW IT DIDN&#8217;t AFFECT YOU AT ALL&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I promise you that, SHE KNOWS&#8230;<\/p>\n<h3>Your #1 Source of Power Over Any Girl<\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sr-vmuorxn4\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/endofmen.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Watch the &#8216;End of Men&#8217; <\/strong><strong>Video<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now, you might say, well <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/change-a-girls-mind-about-you\/\">what if I want a &#8220;second chance&#8221; with her?<\/a><\/p>\n<p>What if I don&#8217;t want to just &#8216;give up&#8217;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>First off, you&#8217;re not giving up, you&#8217;re doing something attractive.<\/p>\n<p>Which is also PREVENTING YOU from doing some UNATTRACTIVE like texting her something that&#8217;s going to make you cringe later when you read it&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>See Also<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-a-girl-miss-you\/\">7 Ways to Make a Girl Miss You<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">Nice Guys, Stop Doing These 5 Things<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/psychology-of-ignoring-a-woman\/\">The Psychology of Ignoring a Woman<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating &gt; Attraction &gt; If She Ignores You by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: February 24, 2023 See Also Is She Ignoring You or Just Busy? 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