{"id":2094,"date":"2024-02-01T15:49:57","date_gmt":"2024-02-01T15:49:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=2094"},"modified":"2024-02-16T19:21:43","modified_gmt":"2024-02-16T19:21:43","slug":"how-to-make-a-girl-obsessed-with-you","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-make-a-girl-obsessed-with-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make a Girl Obsessed with You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>\u00a0&gt;<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; Make a Girl Obsessed with You<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: February 19, 2024<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99.9% of Women Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attraction-tests\/\">5 \u201cTests\u201d That Reveal How She Secretly Feels About You<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">#1 Way to Have Power Over Women<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-2099\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/12-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"make a girl obsessed with ou\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/12-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/12-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/12-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/12.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>5 Tricks to Make a Girl Obsessed with Chasing You\u2026<\/h2>\n<p>And I&#8217;m going to preface this by saying these might be a little gamey, and it might feel a little manipulative.<\/p>\n<p>But if you want to make a girl obsessed with you, this is what works.<\/p>\n<p>And let\u2019s be honest, when we\u2019re trying to attract someone, there\u2019s always an element of manipulation, right?<\/p>\n<p>We don\u2019t like to think of it like that, but really, when a woman wears high heels to be 2 inches taller, or a pushup bra, even makeup, that\u2019s a form of manipulation, right?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">\u201cNice guys\u201d<\/a> are the KINGS of trying to manipulate women into liking them\u2026<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re buying her a gift or taking her to this really fancy restaurant, or doing her some favor\u2026<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a form of manipulation too, you\u2019re doing it because you think it will get her more attracted or interested in you.<\/p>\n<p>So that said, if you\u2019re gonna be gamey, if you\u2019re going to do things to manipulate a woman into being attracted to you\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You should at least do things that actually work.<\/p>\n<p>Here they are.<\/p>\n<h2>Obsession Trick #1: Validate with Attention, NOT Compliments<\/h2>\n<p>Okay.\u00a0 Number one, listen to what she&#8217;s saying and be curious and validate what she&#8217;s saying.<\/p>\n<p>But this is important.<\/p>\n<p>Do not <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/guide-to-complimenting-girls\/\">compliment<\/a> her.<\/p>\n<p>Like respond and ask her questions about it, even challenge her a bit.<\/p>\n<p>Like \u201cthat\u2019s interesting, how did you figure that out\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She should be validated by the curiosity you have about what she\u2019s saying, or the attention you\u2019re giving her when she\u2019s telling you something.<\/p>\n<p>But the minute you start showering her with compliments, she STOPS WANTING your validation or approval.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a weird paradox.<\/p>\n<p>She doesn\u2019t want some approval seeking \u201cnice guy\u201d who can\u2019t stop telling her how awesome she is.<\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s the thing\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Very few guys are genuinely curious about what she\u2019s saying, very few guys really listen, or ask her to expand on something.<\/p>\n<p>Most guys just use what she\u2019s saying as a reason to compliment her.<\/p>\n<p>When you do the opposite, you come off more like you\u2019re screening her a bit, qualifying her, trying to see if she\u2019s interesting enough for you.<\/p>\n<p>When you actually listen, you\u2019re curious, but you don\u2019t compliment her, it triggers something in her brain to start working harder for your validation.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s the guy she\u2019s more likely to chase and obsess over.<\/p>\n<h2>Obsession Trick #2:\u00a0 Let Her Do Things For You<\/h2>\n<p>Okay. Number two, let her do things for you.<\/p>\n<p>But don&#8217;t be too impressed by it.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a standard. Let her know that.<\/p>\n<p>If she mentions that she bakes delicious brownies, say \u201cBring me some next time I need to see if they\u2019re as good as you say they are\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And when she brings them, don\u2019t act like its the nicest thing a girl has ever done for you.<\/p>\n<p>Be nonchalant about it, like you\u2019re used to being treated like a king.<\/p>\n<p>If you act like \u201coh my god you\u2019re so great\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It comes across like you\u2019re not used to being treated so good..<\/p>\n<p>Which lowers your value in her eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Let her see this what you expect, that you have standards.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s also another important element to this\u2026<\/p>\n<p>There is something called: effort justification.<\/p>\n<p>Where the more effort she finds herself putting into the relationship, the more value she places on you.<\/p>\n<p>Let me be clear.<\/p>\n<p>Do NOT take advantage of her, don\u2019t be one of the scummy guys handing her your laundry, and a list of things you need done.<\/p>\n<p>This is NOT about using girls, its about letting her get pleasure out of doing things for you, and not making a big deal about it.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m talking little things\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Like \u201cI need to pick out a birthday present for my niece, and I have NO CLUE what kind of things little girls like.<\/p>\n<p>Can you come to the store and help me pick her something out?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ok\u2026<\/p>\n<h2>Obsession Trick #3: Make Her See You as the Prize<\/h2>\n<p>Number three, <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/become-the-prize-girls-chase\/\">she needs to feel like you\u2019re the prize<\/a>, not her.<\/p>\n<p>Something I always tell clients, if you put her up on a pedestal and you\u2019re treating her like she\u2019s the prize..<\/p>\n<p>Something clicks in her brain where she\u2019s like, I\u2019m the prize here, I don\u2019t have to try so hard.<\/p>\n<p>And once she stops trying so hard, her attraction toward you begins to plummet.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s human nature, we all want to feel like we\u2019re winning the prize, right?<\/p>\n<p>If she realizes she\u2019s THE PRIZE, and you feel lucky to have her..<\/p>\n<p>Then her perception of how attractive you are diminishes.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s a lot of ways to do this, and I have an entire video on being the prize, its on my channel\u2026<\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s a simple thing that you can start with.<\/p>\n<p>Stop explaining yourself.<\/p>\n<p>When we talk to someone who we feel is higher status than us, like your boss for instance\u2026<\/p>\n<p>We have the habit of explaining ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>We feel a bit insecure, and we want their approval, so we provide more information than is needed.<\/p>\n<p>A simple example is if she asks you to hang out and you already have plans\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Instead of being like , \u201coh sorry i really want to, but my brother invited me to this band, I don\u2019t even really want to see them, but I told him I\u2019d go\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Instead just say \u201cHey, sorry, can\u2019t make it tonight\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t need a long explanation as to why.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, let her wonder, it adds to the mystery.<\/p>\n<p>Which for women, is part of what she chases, the wondering what you\u2019re thinking, where she stands with you.<\/p>\n<p>If you tell her everything you\u2019re thinking, she has less to analyze and obsess over in her mind.<\/p>\n<p>The next one kind of ties into this\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\">Do NOT Do This When a Girl \u201cPulls Away\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">5 Ways to Stop Being the \u201cNice Guy\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/stop-girl-from-getting-bored\/\">4 Reasons Women Get Bored<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Obsession Trick #4: Be Less Available.<\/h2>\n<p>Don&#8217;t be there all the time, don&#8217;t answer her all the time, don&#8217;t be available all the time.<\/p>\n<p>And this is super important.<\/p>\n<p>If you ask to her to hang out Friday, and she\u2019s like \u201cCan I let you know later in the week\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Immediately say \u201cNO\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And take the offer off the table.<\/p>\n<p>Be like \u201cIf you\u2019re not sure about Friday, we\u2019ll plan another night\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to be the guy who has nothing else going on that he can wait till Friday morning to find out whether or not she can hang out later.<\/p>\n<p>Now this is the hard part.<\/p>\n<p>If she randomly hits you up on Friday afternoon asking if you\u2019re free tonight, you\u2019ve gotta say NO.<\/p>\n<p>I mean not EVERY TIME.<\/p>\n<p>But if she\u2019s the one with the busier schedule, and she\u2019s usually saying no to you\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t be the guy who\u2019s sitting around waiting for her.<\/p>\n<p>Because if she sees that you either have NO PLANS or you\u2019re willing to break your plans for her\u2026<\/p>\n<p>It devalues you in her eyes.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, when you\u2019re unavailable or hard to get out\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You are literally the opposite of clingy.<\/p>\n<p>And she begins to put A LOT of value on the time she gets to spend with you.<\/p>\n<h2>Obsession Trick #5: Be Willing to Lose Her<\/h2>\n<p>And number five, you need to be okay losing her.<\/p>\n<p>Like, if she&#8217;s doing something wrong by you, or not fitting the criteria of what you need in a relationship, not respecting your time\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Or she\u2019s too flakey\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Or when you hang out with her, she\u2019s glued to her phone.<\/p>\n<p>Be willing to walk away,<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to verbally tell her, but she should be able to pick up on it.<\/p>\n<p>Because if she doesn\u2019t think you\u2019re willing to lose her, she\u2019ll never respect you anyway.<\/p>\n<p>She has to feel like she has to put work into the relationship too.<\/p>\n<p>I have my priorities and boundaries, and you cannot cross them, or else you&#8217;re gone.<\/p>\n<p>She has to choose you, and to choose to be in that relationship.<\/p>\n<p>So you have to be okay walking away from her at any point..<\/p>\n<p>Now, here\u2019s the thing with all five of these\u2026<\/p>\n<p>They are counter-intuitive, and they don\u2019t come naturally to most of us..<\/p>\n<p>They even feel a bit wrong\u2026<\/p>\n<p>But you have to understand that everything comes down to positioning.<\/p>\n<p>How something is positioned.<\/p>\n<p>And humans are conditioned to want things that are positioned as being VALUABLE.<\/p>\n<p>The older you get the more important this is\u2026<\/p>\n<p>I work with a lot of older guys, and when you\u2019re trying to attract a younger woman, its absolutely essential that you position yourself as the prize.<\/p>\n<p>You can be the greatest guy in the world, you can even be physically her type, share a lot in common\u2026<\/p>\n<p>But if put a low price tag on yourself, she\u2019ll eventually lose interest.<\/p>\n<p>What are some more ways to do this?<\/p>\n<h2>Free Class: 3 Steps to Status, Value, and Power<\/h2>\n<p>I\u2019ve got a free class I hold a couple times a week, called <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/3stepsclass\/\">3 Steps to Status Value and Power<\/a><\/strong>\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Where I walk you through the process of increasing the value women place on you..<\/p>\n<p>Because here\u2019s the thing..<\/p>\n<p>Everything about you can stay exactly the same\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You can look the same\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Have the same job\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Even be a lot older then her\u2026<\/p>\n<p>But you can change her perception of you, how much value she perceives you to have,\u00a0 by certain tweaks to your attitude and behavior.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve ever met a guy, who really doesn\u2019t have a lot of concrete value, maybe he\u2019s average looking, average income, even average at talking\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Yet girls seem to chase him, seem to obsess over him.<\/p>\n<p>Its because he\u2019s doing things that cause women to perceive him as having higher value, things like we discussed in this video..<\/p>\n<p>And things I go A LOT DEEPER INTO, with more techniques and examples in my free class:<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/3stepsclass\/\">3 Steps to Status, Value, and Power\u2026<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You can register at the link above, its free, and there are a couple of sessions to choose from.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating\u00a0&gt;Attraction &gt; Make a Girl Obsessed with You by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: February 19, 2024 See Also 99.9% of Women Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d 5 \u201cTests\u201d That Reveal How She Secretly Feels About You #1 Way to Have 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