{"id":274,"date":"2022-08-02T17:54:18","date_gmt":"2022-08-02T17:54:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=274"},"modified":"2022-09-02T15:54:16","modified_gmt":"2022-09-02T15:54:16","slug":"why-nice-guys-fail","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things &#8220;Nice Guys&#8221; Get WRONG with Women"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; Nice Guy Behavior<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio <small>\u2022 <\/small><\/small><small>Updated: August 20, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See Also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/7-flirting-mistakes\/\">7 &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Flirting Mistakes<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/traits-girls-chase\/\">5 Weird Traits That Make Women Chase You<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1355\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/nice-guys-1024x576.png\" alt=\"nice guy mistakes\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/nice-guys-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/nice-guys-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/nice-guys-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/nice-guys.png 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>5 Nice Guy Behaviors &amp; Traits that Lose the Girl<\/h2>\n<p>Many guys instinctively fall into a category referred to as \u201cnice guys.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When a woman rejects you and tells you, \u201cYou\u2019re a really nice guy\u2026\u201d she says it like it\u2019s a good thing\u2026 except that it\u2019s usually followed with,<em> \u201c\u2026but I\u2019m not feeling it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The reasons that women don&#8217;t feel it with \u201cnice guys\u201d is because they&#8217;re missing five traits that women want from a man. Traits that a man <em>must<\/em> have to turn a woman on.<\/p>\n<p>Here are the 5 traits that \u201cnice guys\u201d are missing.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Missing Trait #1:\u00a0 Killer Instinct<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cNice guys\u201d are afraid to fully go after what they want.<\/p>\n<p>I recently watched a \u201cnice guy\u201d interact with a woman he\u2019d been set up with. At the end of the night, he winds up going, &#8220;Hey, nice meeting you,&#8221; gives her a hug, and leaves.<\/p>\n<p>He didn&#8217;t take responsibility for making something sexual happen.<\/p>\n<p>He failed to fully go for what he wanted.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNice guys\u201d do this all the time.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They do it when they&#8217;re having a good conversation with a woman and they&#8217;re afraid to ask for her number.<\/li>\n<li>They do it on a date when they fail to go for the kiss.<\/li>\n<li>They think, \u201cI&#8217;ll do it next time. It&#8217;s too soon. She might think I&#8217;m only trying to sleep with her.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>They never ever take it to that intimate level.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You need to have that killer instinct to go for what you want, be assertive, and close the deal.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Missing Trait #2: Playfulness <\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A woman has to have a good time when she&#8217;s with you.<\/p>\n<p>There must be an element of her thinking, <em>&#8220;Wow, we really connect. There&#8217;s chemistry here.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">Chemistry<\/a> happens on the playground.<\/p>\n<p>Remember when you were out on the playground in the fourth grade with your childhood crush. You two were in your own little world, playing silly games together.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s where attraction takes place, and you should strive to give a woman that same feeling. We call that <strong>\u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/conversation-with-girls\/\">Taking Her Back to the Playground<\/a>.\u201d <\/strong>It\u2019s when the two of you are just engaging with each other and having fun.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNice guys\u201d don\u2019t understand this. They get a woman out on a date and instead of taking her back to the playground, they take her on a job interview.<\/p>\n<p>They ask her, &#8220;What do you do for a living? How do you like your job? How did you get started in that?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s no playfulness there. And without playfulness, there is no chemistry.<\/p>\n<p>Ironically, when \u201cnice guys\u201d are hanging out with their friends, they tend to be fun, playful guys.<\/p>\n<p>But around a woman, their serious side comes out and they don\u2019t let their guard down. They\u2019re stiff, formal, and come across as boring.<\/p>\n<p>Sidestep the job interview questions and take her back to the playground.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/chick-crack\/\">SAY this &#8220;Chick Crack&#8221; to Spark the Vibe<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-tips\/\">3 Flirting Lines that Work<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/words-that-turn-women-on\/\">5 Words That Turn Every Woman On<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Missing Trait #3: Anticipation<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>In order to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">hold a woman\u2019s interest<\/a>, you need the ability to create anticipation.<\/p>\n<p>If you study the romance novels, TV shows, and movies that women love, they\u2019re all about buildup and anticipation of what&#8217;s going to happen.<\/p>\n<p>When is it going to happen? How is it going to happen?<\/p>\n<p>Anticipation creates an emotional rollercoaster for a woman as she wonders what&#8217;s going to happen next.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNice guys\u201d don\u2019t create anticipation.<\/p>\n<p>They hang out with a woman a few times. They don&#8217;t make a move. When you don\u2019t make a move, the anticipation fizzles out.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s no tension being built up. You\u2019ve removed the question, \u201cWhen is he going to kiss me?\u201d Because the answer is \u201cnever.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then the \u201cnice guy\u201d spills his guts and says, \u201cI like you so much,&#8221; and that totally just ruins everything.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve removed the question, \u201cWill he like me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Because the answer is, <em>\u201cYes, he\u2019s already completely sold on you way too soon.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>When you meet a woman and decide instantly, &#8221; I like her so much. I have to make her my girlfriend,&#8221; you\u2019re going to move too quickly and diminish the suspense.<\/p>\n<p>By keeping more options with women and having a fulfilling life outside of dating, you can naturally take longer to decide about a woman. This will better your odds of creating anticipation.<\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See Also:<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">#1 Way to Have Power Over Women<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-get-a-girl-hooked-on-you\/\">How to Get a Girl &#8220;Hooked&#8221; on You (proven by science)<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">Using Tension and Anticipation to Make Her Chase<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Missing Trait #4: Certainty<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Remember that killer instinct that \u201cnice guys\u201d lack? A big reason for this is because they also lack <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/certainty\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">certainty<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNice guys\u201d are always second-guessing themselves and letting their insecurities seep through.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re hanging out with a girl the conversation is going well.<\/p>\n<p>Then they think, &#8220;Does she really like me? Does she want me to kiss her? I don&#8217;t know. If I try to kiss her and she didn&#8217;t want to kiss me, she&#8217;s going to think that I thought she liked me and she didn&#8217;t like me and it&#8217;s going to make me look weird.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>They have all this doubt and insecurity going through their mind.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, a guy who&#8217;s good with women will think, &#8220;Of course she wants to kiss me. We&#8217;re having a good conversation. Why would she not want to kiss me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When the \u201cnice guy\u201d plans a date, he&#8217;s always worried. &#8220;Did I choose the right place? Is she going to like this place?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>They needily ask a woman, <em>\u201cHey, is this restaurant okay? If it\u2019s not, I could pick a different place.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>But what women really want from a man is certainty.<\/p>\n<p>Certainty is a belief in yourself, a belief that your opinion is valid. It&#8217;s a belief that when you choose to do something, it&#8217;s the right choice.<\/p>\n<p>When you constantly seek reassurance from a woman, it comes across as insecure and needy.<\/p>\n<p>When you doubt yourself, it makes her doubt you, too.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll think, <em>&#8220;Why is he so insecure? If he\u2019s not sure that I should like him, maybe I shouldn\u2019t.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>The #1 Most Attractive Trait<br \/>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QxLNc5ygHYc\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Take the 10-Question &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Quiz\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Missing Trait #5: A High Price Tag<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Everyone places a certain amount of value on themselves.<\/p>\n<p>When we meet somebody else, we judge our value against theirs. It&#8217;s human nature.<\/p>\n<p>When \u201cnice guys\u201d meet a woman that they like, they assign her more value than themselves. They automatically give her the position of <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/become-high-value-man\/\">higher status.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>When you do this, you become a woman\u2019s fan. You become the guy below her, looking up.<\/p>\n<p>When she senses this, she\u2019s going to look down on you because you\u2019re training her to do that.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, a guy that we might call a \u201cplayer\u201d is training a woman to see him as having more value than her. She senses this and begins to look up at him.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why she chases him. Because we all chase things that we deem to have value.<\/p>\n<p>Nobody chases \u201cnice guys\u201d because we don\u2019t deem them to have value.<\/p>\n<p>Money has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of rich \u201cnice guys\u201d who struggle with women.<\/p>\n<p>Attraction is about the internal value that we place on ourselves. If you don&#8217;t give yourself a high price tag, a woman is never going to see you as <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/become-the-prize-girls-chase\/\">worthy of chasing<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>&#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Recap<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cNice guys\u201d fail because they lack these 5 characteristics that women crave:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Killer instinct<\/li>\n<li>Playfulness<\/li>\n<li>Certainty<\/li>\n<li>Anticipation<\/li>\n<li>A high price tag<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>The Next Step<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>If these 5 traits don\u2019t come naturally to you, I hold a class a few times a week called <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/3stepsclass\/\"><strong>&#8220;Three Steps to Status, Value, and Charisma.&#8221;<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The class is about an hour long and is completely free.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>What to expect:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>I walk you through how to change your nice guy behavior in 3 steps.<\/li>\n<li>I teach you 3 mindsets, 3 attitudes, and 3 behaviors to raise your value in a woman\u2019s eyes.<\/li>\n<li>I help you develop social status and power (even if you don\u2019t have money or connections).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Some of the guys that have already gone through this class said that they would have paid hundreds of dollars for this free class. It&#8217;s one of the most valuable classes you will go through.<\/p>\n<p>Click the link below to register for <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/3stepsclass\/\"><strong>&#8220;Three Steps to Status, Value, and Charisma.\u201d<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating&gt; Attraction &gt; Nice Guy Behavior by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: August 20, 2022 See Also 7 &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Flirting Mistakes 99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d 5 Weird Traits That Make Women Chase You 5 Nice Guy Behaviors &amp; Traits that Lose the Girl Many guys instinctively fall into a category [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-274","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=274"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1441,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/274\/revisions\/1441"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=274"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}