{"id":286,"date":"2022-09-06T19:59:34","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T19:59:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=286"},"modified":"2022-09-08T15:26:28","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T15:26:28","slug":"neediness","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/neediness\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Eliminate Neediness When Flirting with a Girl"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>\u00a0&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">Flirting<\/a> &gt; Eliminate Neediness<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: August 20, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/spark-vibe-with-girl\/\">5 Ways to Spark the \u201cFlirty Vibe\u201d with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/banter-lines-to-use-on-girls\/\">10 Cocky &amp; Funny Banter Lines to Use<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1367\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Thumbnail_3-copy-1024x576.png\" alt=\"eliminte neediness\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Thumbnail_3-copy-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Thumbnail_3-copy-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Thumbnail_3-copy-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Thumbnail_3-copy.png 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>Eliminate Neediness Around Women<\/h2>\n<p>Do you want to know why girls get so turned on and excited by guys we view as <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-love-jerks\">\u201cplayers,\u201d \u201cjerks,\u201d or \u201cbad boys\u201d<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>I used to get really confused why a girl would so quickly go home with one of these guys.<\/p>\n<p>And I was always obsessed with figuring out \u201cwhat did he SAY that was so special?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d watch them talking, and I\u2019d see her reacting to him in a way girls NEVER reacted to me. It was the little differences; she\u2019d touch him more, stand closer to him, and talk to him in a less formal, more flirtatious level.<\/p>\n<p>Even if she were just meeting him, it would seem like the two of them have been sleeping together for years.<\/p>\n<p>But what STUNG the most was that I could see she didn\u2019t have that \u201cbored\u201d look she had when she was talking to me, and that with him, SHE was putting effort in. She was working to impress him. She was trying to seem cuter, more fun, and sexier.<\/p>\n<p>And what really pissed me off was that it wasn\u2019t just the \u201cslutty\u201d girls that would fall for <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/chick-crack\/\">this type of flirting<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It was the \u201cgood girls\u201d too.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, the good girls usually fell for it the fastest. It was almost like he flipped a switch in her brain that just made her want to bang him. (Even though she logically knew she shouldn\u2019t)<\/p>\n<h2><strong>So what was flipping this switch in girls?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>You may have heard that\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-women-test-men\/\">girls will \u201ctest\u201d a guy during a conversation<\/a>\u00a0to see if she can throw him off his game.<\/p>\n<p>A way I like to look at it is that while you\u2019re talking to a girl you have to realize that she\u2019s fishing.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s dropped her line in the water and she wants to see how fast you \u201ctake the bait.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But what most guys completely miss is that no girl wants an \u201ceasy catch.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>C\u2019mon, we\u2019ve all heard that \u201cgirls want a challenge\u201d or \u201call girls want what they can\u2019t have\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Yet for some reason, whenever we\u2019re talking to a girl we try to make ourselves as little of a challenge as possible.<\/p>\n<p><strong>We make it SO EASY for her.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>We act super interested and impressed with everything she says<\/li>\n<li>We plaster a fake smile on our face to make her feel funny<\/li>\n<li>We compliment her the first chance we get<\/li>\n<li>We ask personal questions to show that we want to \u201cget to know her\u201d<\/li>\n<li>We let her subtlety control what we talk about<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Most of the time, within 5 minutes of talking to us she knows that we\u2019re \u201chooked\u201d and she could pull her line out of the water and we\u2019d be flopping around the boat like a suffocating fish.<\/p>\n<p>So what does she do?<\/p>\n<p>She shows us mercy and throws us back in the water.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the thing, when you ask too many questions, appear too interested, or you\u2019re won over too easily you come across as NEEDY.<\/p>\n<p>And that \u201cneediness\u201d sets off a little alarm inside her head that says, \u201cWhat is wrong with him?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhy does he need me to like him so much?\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Neediness is NOT attractive.<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Yet, most of us have been programmed to talk to girls in a way that\u00a0displays massive amounts of neediness and approval seeking behavior.<\/p>\n<p>This is why when a girl meets one of these \u201cplayers\u201d who are NOT displaying any of this neediness she almost immediately begins to freak out and try to win HIM OVER.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s so used to the instant attention and approval she gets from other guys that when she meets a guy who doesn\u2019t seem to be trying too hard?<\/p>\n<p>It makes HER try harder.<\/p>\n<p>And once a girl starts putting some effort into a conversation it naturally becomes more fun and flirtatious.<\/p>\n<p>So how do you do it?<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/confidence-secrets\/\">5 Confidence Secrets That Make You Attractive AF<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">How to a Woman&#8217;s &#8220;Romantic Challenge&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/girl-tests-formula\/\">Formula for Passing a Girl&#8217;s &#8220;Tests&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>How do come across\u00a0<em>less needy<\/em>\u00a0and\u00a0<em>try hard<\/em>\u00a0in a conversation?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>It&#8217;s going to sound very simple, but here it is:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Change the subject.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What?<\/p>\n<p>One thing a girl secretly notices is who is <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/conversation-with-girls\/\">controlling the conversation<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Who is \u201cleading?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Most guys let the girl lead. Even when you\u2019re doing the talking, chances are you\u2019re letting her dictate what direction the conversation heads in.<\/p>\n<p>Once she realizes she\u2019s \u201cleading\u201d she goes into conversation \u201ccruise control\u201d and doesn\u2019t put any effort in.<\/p>\n<p>The first thing you need to do is \u201csubtly\u201d establish that you\u2019re the one leading.<\/p>\n<p>A simple, but powerfully effective thing I like to do is right when she is in the middle of telling me something I\u2019ll completely change the subject.<\/p>\n<p>It sort of surprises her.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes it even pisses her off a little?<\/p>\n<p>But as \u201cplayers\u201d have taught us, it&#8217;s OK to piss a girl off. Because it&#8217;s gets her PAYING ATTENTION to you.<\/p>\n<p>She starts thinking \u201cwow, he\u2019s not nodding his head and smiling at everything I\u2019m saying? what\u2019s going on here.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the first step?<\/p>\n<p>The second step is to transform that attention into <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/sexual-tension\/\">sexual tension<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>#1 Way to Have &#8220;Power&#8221; Over Women<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sr-vmuorxn4\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/endofdating.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Watch the End of Men Video<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><small>Read Next:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Charismatic Conversation Secrets<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/7-flirting-mistakes\/\">Nice Guys Stop Doing &#8220;THIS&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\">5 Mistakes Men Make When a Girl &#8220;Pulls Away&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating\u00a0&gt; Flirting &gt; Eliminate Neediness by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: August 20, 2022 See Also 99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d 5 Ways to Spark the \u201cFlirty Vibe\u201d with a Girl 10 Cocky &amp; Funny Banter Lines to Use Eliminate Neediness Around Women Do you want to know why girls get so [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-286","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/286","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=286"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/286\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1655,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/286\/revisions\/1655"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=286"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}