{"id":298,"date":"2022-08-05T19:31:59","date_gmt":"2022-08-05T19:31:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=298"},"modified":"2022-09-08T14:26:08","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T14:26:08","slug":"create-chemistry-with-woman","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"The #1 Secret to Sparking Chemistry with a Girl"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating Advice<\/a> &gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; Chemistry<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: August 3, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">The #1 Way to Have Power Over Women<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">Say THIS to Make Her Fall in Love<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/spark-vibe-with-girl\/\">5 Ways to Spark the Vibe with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1499\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/the-chemistry-secret-1024x576.png\" alt=\"how to create chemistry with a girl\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/the-chemistry-secret-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/the-chemistry-secret-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/the-chemistry-secret-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/the-chemistry-secret.png 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>Can You Create &#8220;Chemistry&#8221; with a Woman?<\/h2>\n<p>A lot of guys think that chemistry is this mystical magical thing, but there is actually a reliable way to spark it, with any woman, it has to do with YOU brining out her feminine side, and I&#8217;m going to reveal the secret in this article.<\/p>\n<p>Hi, I&#8217;m Bobby Rio, and for 13 years now, I&#8217;ve been coaching men on how to create attraction and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">keep a woman&#8217;s interest<\/a> (because keeping her interest is just as hard as sparking that interest.)<\/p>\n<p>But one of the things men are continually confused about is this idea of why we have chemistry with certain women, and not others.<\/p>\n<p>Or why a girl, who we thought things went well, later tells us she didn&#8217;t feel a spark.<\/p>\n<h2>Here&#8217;s the Secret of Chemistry<\/h2>\n<p>So, let me explain the secret of chemistry.<\/p>\n<p>The secret of chemistry is when masculinity and femininity come together.\u00a0 When that happens, sparks fly.<\/p>\n<p>What do I mean by this?<\/p>\n<h3><strong>The Masculine and Feminine Roles Explained<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>So, there&#8217;s a <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-more-attracted\/\">masculine role<\/a> and a feminine role.\u00a0 And where men lose a woman&#8217;s attraction is when the man doesn&#8217;t take the masculine role with her.<\/p>\n<p>What do I mean by that?<\/p>\n<p>Here are some examples of NOT taking the masculine role.<\/p>\n<p>He leaves the decision making up to her, he lets her lead the vibe.<\/p>\n<p>What I mean by that is he waits for her to start flirting or get intimate, almost like he&#8217;s waiting for her permission to take things to the next level.<\/p>\n<p>If she&#8217;s the one suggesting where to go or what to do, or worse, she&#8217;s the one who has to hold up a big sign that says &#8220;ITS OK to KISS ME&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>When a girl is leading you, when you sense she&#8217;s controlling the vibe between you, that almost always ends with you in the friend zone.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Taking the Feminine Role Never Creates Chemistry<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Guys will also take on the feminine role and try really hard to connect with a girl, or listen to her problems, or show how much you guys have in common, and that&#8217;s fine if you just want to be friends&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I often tell the story of a time I met this adorable girl, she looked like a super young Marisa Tomei, just really cute.<\/p>\n<p>And she was into health food and a vegetarian and all of that.\u00a0 And I&#8217;m very into that too, so I&#8217;m at a part with her, and for forty-five minutes were in complete rapport, talking about all of it.<\/p>\n<p>Then she leaves to go the bathroom.\u00a0 And 10 minutes, 20 minutes, I&#8217;m standing there waiting for her to come back.<\/p>\n<p>After about an hour, I&#8217;m like where is she\u2026\u00a0 So I go upstairs, and I open a door, and she&#8217;s making out with some other guy.<\/p>\n<p>This guy, I knew him, and he&#8217;s like the complete opposite of a vegetarian health food guy.<\/p>\n<p>But see, I was trying to create chemistry by bonding over femininity, and that&#8217;s NOT how it happens.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Taking the Masculine Role Sparks Chemistry<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>For a woman to feel a strong level of chemistry toward you, you&#8217;ve got to take the masculine role early in your encounters with her.<\/p>\n<p>So, in my case, after a couple minutes of talking to her about health food, I needed to take control, change the subject, start flirting, and lead the vibe in a more intimate direction.<\/p>\n<p>Now, here&#8217;s the thing&#8230; when you do this, you&#8217;ve got to be firm with it.<\/p>\n<p>Because <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-women-test-men\/\">women will test you<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>They will do or say things to get a reaction out of you, to make you lose your cool.\u00a0 She might make a joke that&#8217;s like a little jab at you, do you get but hurt?<\/p>\n<p>If she makes a comment about another guy do you seem jealous and upset?<\/p>\n<p>If she says something like &#8220;I&#8217;m not going to sleep with you tonight&#8221; do you start explaining yourself or even apologizing&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If so, you FAILED the test..<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/girl-tests-formula\/\">Formula for Passing Girl&#8217;s Tests<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/words-that-turn-women-on\/\">5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn Every Woman On<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">Nice Guys, Stop Doing &#8220;THIS&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Being Masculine Requires Two Things<\/h2>\n<p>Being masculine is really about two things.<\/p>\n<p>First, its about leading her instead of being led.\u00a0 Take the risk, don&#8217;t make her take it, even if she does, she&#8217;ll resent you for it later.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been with girls where I was too chicken to go for the kiss and they wound up going for it and we kissed, but in every case, they lost attraction quickly after that&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The Second part of being masculine is <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/handling-rude-behavior\/\">having boundaries<\/a>. If a woman feels like she can walk all over you and you&#8217;ll still be into her, it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n<p>One thing, my friend Rob Judge and I always say is &#8220;never reward bad behavior&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What this means is, if a woman is being flaky, rude, canceling on you, or just treating your time like it doesn&#8217;t matter, and you REWARD HER with more attention, or gifts or compliments, you&#8217;ll lose all value in her eyes.<\/p>\n<p>And again, she&#8217;s going to test you, so be prepared, how much can I get away with him?\u00a0 How into me is he?<\/p>\n<p>If I&#8217;m texting on my phone the whole time we&#8217;re together, will he politely tell me to put my phone away or will he put up with it like my little puppy dog.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the deal&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>A girl will have a really hard time staying attracted to you if she sees you as being weak, or the type of guy she can easily control or manipulate.<\/p>\n<p>Now, on the other hand, if you have a strong masculine presence she will feel chemistry toward you.<\/p>\n<p>And this doesn&#8217;t mean you have to be some alpha male, jacked up, loud badboy. In fact there are plenty of introverted computer programmer type of guys who get this right.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Be Comfortable in the Dominant Role<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>It just means you are comfortable in the more dominant role.\u00a0 And when a woman meets you, she can immediately tell you place a lot of value on yourself, that she can&#8217;t emotionally control you.<\/p>\n<p>When a woman meets a guy like this, even if he&#8217;s not her normal type, she&#8217;ll still feel attraction toward him, she can&#8217;t help it.<\/p>\n<p>See, the secret to chemistry is that the more of the masculine role you take on, the more it brings out her feminine side.<\/p>\n<p>And when a girl is acting out her feminine side, it just feels right for her, and she chalks it up to &#8220;we just have this chemistry&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Now, nice guys are notorious for being scared to take on that strong masculine role, or they just don&#8217;t know how to do it.<\/p>\n<p>And this is why women never feel the spark with them.<\/p>\n<p>So one question I always ask a guy is how far on the &#8220;nice guy&#8221; spectrum are you?\u00a0 Because one of the big reasons <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">&#8220;nice guys&#8221; don&#8217;t do well with girls<\/a> is because they usually take the feminine role&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2>5 Ways to Project the &#8220;Masculine Vibe&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gCLQGe_5jfk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\"><strong>Take the Quiz and Get your &#8220;Score&#8221;<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How much of a &#8220;nice guy&#8221; are you?<\/h2>\n<p>Well, if you&#8217;re not sure, I have a short <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">10 question quiz below<\/a>, where you&#8217;ll answer a series of short questions, and then you&#8217;ll get a customized description of where you fall on the nice guy spectrum, and more importantly, it will tell you the areas you need to improve&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\"><strong>Take the &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Quiz<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating Advice &gt; Attraction &gt; Chemistry by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: August 3, 2022 See Also The #1 Way to Have Power Over Women Say THIS to Make Her Fall in Love 5 Ways to Spark the Vibe with a Girl Can You Create &#8220;Chemistry&#8221; with a Woman? 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