{"id":321,"date":"2022-08-31T13:53:04","date_gmt":"2022-08-31T13:53:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=321"},"modified":"2022-09-14T13:12:56","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T13:12:56","slug":"4-ways-to-touch-a-girl","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/4-ways-to-touch-a-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"The 4 Best Ways to Touch a Woman You Just Met"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>&gt; <a href=\"ttps:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">Flirting<\/a> &gt; Touching<br \/>\nby Rob Judge \u2022 Updated: August 31, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/nonverbal-flirting\/\">How to Flirt Without Saying a Word<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-more-attracted\/\">5 Ways to Make Her More Attracted<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1774\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/best-ways-to-touch-a-woman-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"best ways to touch a woman\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/best-ways-to-touch-a-woman-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/best-ways-to-touch-a-woman-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/best-ways-to-touch-a-woman-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/best-ways-to-touch-a-woman.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>The Keys To the First &#8220;Touch&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p>To touch or not to touch.<\/p>\n<p>It isn&#8217;t so much a question as it is an issue.<\/p>\n<p>Most of us guys know we <em>should<\/em> be touching women we find attractive, yet an overwhelming fear prevents us from bridging that physical gap. Whether we&#8217;re afraid women will reject us, see us as &#8220;creepy,&#8221; or just not reciprocate, often we simply forgo any sort physical contact, especially with women we just met.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, this is why so many guys find themselves in situations where <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wussy-mistakes\/\">girls just see them as a &#8220;friend,&#8221;<\/a> where attraction suddenly fizzles, or where the girl leaves them for a touchier dude.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve wanted to write on touching for a while, however the way I touch women has become so ingrained and normal that I rarely take notice of what I&#8217;m actually doing.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, that mindset is the foundation of attractive touching: don&#8217;t over complicate touching women!<\/p>\n<p>It should be something that is completely normal to you.<\/p>\n<p>That means you touch her freely when she&#8217;s close and the opportunity arises, but you don&#8217;t feel compelled to force a touch if you&#8217;re in an awkward position (e.g., she&#8217;s standing a few feet away from you, she&#8217;s sitting across a long table).<\/p>\n<h3>Pointers for Touching a Woman:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>The way you touch a woman should be an outgrowth of your affection.<\/li>\n<li>It should be something completely organic<\/li>\n<li>It should be spontaneous and not feel planned<\/li>\n<li>Always respect her boundaries<\/li>\n<li>You should only touch a woman once a &#8220;vibe&#8221; has been established between you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Although it <em>does<\/em>\u00a0help to have a few guidelines to ensure your touching is attractive, not creepy.<\/p>\n<p>So, I went on two dates this week and consciously examined my &#8220;organic&#8221; touching, finding I rely on 4 key &#8220;moves&#8221; to bridge the physical gap between myself and an attractive girl. Here they are:<\/p>\n<h2>Touch Move #1: The Scoop<\/h2>\n<p>Whenever you&#8217;re standing next to a girl, there&#8217;s that lingering awkwardness of trying to close the gap. This is especially palpable when you&#8217;re walking a short distance with a girl (e.g. from the bar area to a place to sit).<\/p>\n<p>Whenever I find myself shoulder-to-shoulder with an attractive girl, I automatically go for &#8220;the scoop.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I have to credit my boy Zack Bauer for coming up with the name, but the concept has been around since man evolved elbows. Essentially, you snake your arm around a girl&#8217;s back and (lightly) cup her waist with your hand.<\/p>\n<p>While boyfriends scoop their girlfriends without thinking, you too should scoop girls you just met without thinking. For whatever reason, women feel safe and protected when a man goes for the scoop as if it&#8217;s a reflex, even if she just met him.<\/p>\n<p>The best moments to go for a &#8220;scoop&#8221; are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0The beginning of a date as you walk a woman into the venue or restaurant<\/li>\n<li>Whenever you&#8217;re relocating and walking together<\/li>\n<li>or whenever she&#8217;s standing next to you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Touch Move #2: The handhold<\/h2>\n<p>The old handhold is nothing new, however, there <em>are<\/em>\u00a0some innovative ways to use it.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than treat holding hands as if you were living in the 1950s, exploit the intimacy of the gesture. <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Holding_hands\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Holding hands<\/a> attractively depends largely on the transition\u00a0<em>before<\/em>\u00a0the actual handhold.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, avoid an awkward handhold by making it totally obvious your only intention is snaring her hand. Instead, let the &#8220;connection&#8221; happen organically, allowing your hands to linger after a spontaneous touch.<\/p>\n<p>Such moments of spontaneity could come:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>After introducing yourself with a &#8220;handshake<\/li>\n<li>After playfully pushing her away then pulling her back toward you<\/li>\n<li>or any other instance of light, playful physical contact.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>People have a natural inclination to want that sort of &#8220;touching&#8221; to continue, so she&#8217;ll be happy to hold you hand.<\/p>\n<p>Again, don&#8217;t be creepy, weird, or old fashioned about it. Hold her hand for a minute (tops) and then release it.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t want to let any touch go stale and become awkward.<\/p>\n<h2>Touch Move #3: The lock<\/h2>\n<p>A variation on the handhold, &#8220;the lock&#8221; is a more intense move.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than simply holding a woman&#8217;s hand, you actually close your fingers over hers. This lets you &#8220;spin&#8221; her (if that&#8217;s your thing), pull her into you, or do anything else that requires you &#8220;take the lead.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Since &#8220;the lock&#8221; is so similar to the handhold, you can use it in the same opportunities.<\/p>\n<p>Some other good times to use &#8220;the lock,&#8221; are after a high-five or any other seemingly &#8220;fun&#8221; gesture.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re looking for ways to transition a &#8220;fun&#8221; date into an intimacy, definitely try &#8220;the lock.&#8221;<\/p>\n<h2>Touch Move #4: The stroke<\/h2>\n<p>Every week or so, I get an email from a guy asking how to touch a woman when she&#8217;s sitting across a table from you. I can understand where these guys are coming from, as I once wondered the same thing.<\/p>\n<p>After a couple botched dates, I stumbled upon a simple way to touch a woman without\u00a0coming off contrived or creepy: the stroke.<\/p>\n<p>Essentially, this sort of touch plays on the pleasure-looking nerves that run up a woman&#8217;s underarm, wrist, and (most of all) palm.<\/p>\n<p>The move itself is simple: lightly graze your fingernails up and down her arm, from her inner elbow to the tips of her fingers.<\/p>\n<p>The finesse, however, lies in how you initiate such a sexual touch.<\/p>\n<p>To begin &#8220;the stroke&#8221; lay your own arms flat across a table, palms up. Without fail, women will reflexively lay their hands over yours. Once you&#8217;re lightly holding hands across the table, slowly flip her hand over. Now her arm should be lying flat against the table, palms up.<\/p>\n<p>From there, lightly graze her arms in a relaxed, rhythmic motion. Don&#8217;t draw attention to &#8220;the stroke&#8221;, simply move your fingernails up and down her arm as you continue to converse with her.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The stroke,&#8221; like the other 3 touches, will unconsciously get her accustomed to your touch and her attraction for you will develop organically (as if &#8220;it just happened&#8221;).<\/p>\n<p>Before either of you realize, you&#8217;ll have established a physical relationship without even thinking of it.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/spark-sexual-tension\/\">6 Secrets of Sparking &#8220;Sexual Tension&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">#1 Way to Create Chemistry with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/verbal-foreplay\/\">Guide to &#8220;Verbal Foreplay&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/words-that-turn-women-on\/\">5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn Every Woman On<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/conversation-with-girls\/\">99.9% of Girls Fall for These 5 Tricks<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\">THIS Is How to Touch a Girl On a First Date<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-9HeKTQDSww\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating&gt; Flirting &gt; Touching by Rob Judge \u2022 Updated: August 31, 2022 See Also 99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d How to Flirt Without Saying a Word 5 Ways to Make Her More Attracted The Keys To the First &#8220;Touch&#8221; To touch or not to touch. 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