{"id":409,"date":"2022-09-14T16:36:16","date_gmt":"2022-09-14T16:36:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=409"},"modified":"2022-09-14T16:40:52","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T16:40:52","slug":"what-to-talk-about-date","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-to-talk-about-date\/","title":{"rendered":"18 Things to Say on a Date to Make Her Want You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>&gt;\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-talk-to-women\/\">Conversation<\/a> &gt; Things to Say on a Date<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Coaching Staff \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: July 20, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/words-that-turn-women-on\/\">5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn Every Woman On<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/vibing-with-girls\/\">4 Ways to &#8220;Vibe&#8221; with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1747\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/things-to-say-on-a-date-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"things to say on a date\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/things-to-say-on-a-date-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/things-to-say-on-a-date-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/things-to-say-on-a-date-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/things-to-say-on-a-date.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>The Best Things to Say on a First Date<\/h2>\n<p>Have you been stuck in the half-hour conversation to nowhere?<\/p>\n<p>Its arguably worse than getting instantly blown out\u2026<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, have you ever been in a conversation where there is <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/chick-crack\/\">an amazing vibe between you and a woman<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Those conversations when:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A woman is hooked on your every word<\/li>\n<li>She laughs at your jokes<\/li>\n<li>Gasps at your shocking stories<\/li>\n<li>Nods in interest throughout the interaction.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You feel an <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-rapport-with-woman\/\">instant connection<\/a> \u2013 and couldn\u2019t be more confident that this woman will be down for a date in the future.<\/p>\n<p>Then, out of nowhere, she makes her excuses and leaves.<\/p>\n<p>She smiles and says \u201cnice to meet you\u201d as she strolls out of your life forever, leaving you wondering what you did wrong.<\/p>\n<h2>\u201cNice Conversations\u201d vs \u201cAttractive Conversations\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>More often than not, it probably was a <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/7-flirting-mistakes\/\">\u201cnice\u201d conversation<\/a> \u2013 but it did nothing to make her see you as a potential lover.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t bring up the correct <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">conversation topics<\/a>, you\u2019ll end up in conversations like this every time you meet a beautiful woman.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll have way too many dates where she \u201cdidn\u2019t feel the spark\u201d and be fighting to get out of the friend zone far more often than you need to be.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve been scrolling the web for advice on <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-to-talk-about-with-girls\/\">things to say to a woman<\/a>, you\u2019ll probably have already heard that it\u2019s not what you say, it\u2019s the way you say it.<\/p>\n<p>This is absolutely true.<\/p>\n<p>Your vibe, body language and voice tonality communicate so much more about you than the words coming out your mouth.<\/p>\n<p>Once you realize this, it\u2019s a life-changing moment. You never have to worry about \u2018running out of things to say\u2019 again?<\/p>\n<p>But what if you haven\u2019t realized this yet?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Maybe you\u2019re just\u00a0getting started with daygame.<\/li>\n<li>Perhaps you\u2019re an introvert who struggles to\u00a0speak with confidence\u00a0and assertiveness.<\/li>\n<li>Who knows? You might be going on\u00a0your first date ever\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In this situation, it would make sense that you\u2019re after an actual list of things to talk about on a date.<\/p>\n<h2>Avoid These 7 &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Flirting Mistakes<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/UchCwG3VW20\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Take the 10-Question &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Quiz<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>18 Things You Can Say on a Date<\/h2>\n<p>If you&#8217;re ever in front of a woman, and struggling for what to say. Below are 14 ideas for things you could say.<\/p>\n<p>There are 18 things to say on a date which can help present you as an attractive male, rather than a nice little chit-chat buddy. These are conversations to start the next time you\u2019re chatting with a beautiful woman.<\/p>\n<p>I also recommend combining them together, for endless conversation.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #1. Anything that beings with \u2018we\u2019<\/h2>\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s an observation. \u201cWow, we both like strong beer. That\u2019s a bad sign.\u201d<br \/>\nMaybe it\u2019s speculation. \u201cWe are not going to get along.\u201d<br \/>\nMaybe it\u2019s future plans. \u201cWe should go and visit my dog after these drinks.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The whole idea is that you&#8217;re beginning to shine the spotlight of the conversation on the two of you.\u00a0 This is one of the <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">big secrets to chemistry with women<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #2: Your past<\/h2>\n<p>Tales from your past help her to feel more comfortable around you.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/telling-stories-on-date\/\">Tell a personal story<\/a> you wouldn\u2019t normally mention to stranger. This helps to build an emotional connection. It convinces her she\u2019s not just the \u201cnext hot girl\u201d in your eyes \u2013 and separates you from every other random dude she just met.<\/p>\n<p>The best stories are the ones that show vulnerability, or tales that helped to shape your personality.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s something you loved to do with your parents, or that one thing that terrified you as a child. Anything that helps her get to know you better will work wonders.<\/p>\n<p>Once again, explain your emotions during the story. This is key with all seven conversation topics\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Once you\u2019re done, try and get her to share a similar story. It\u2019ll help her feel even more invested in you.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #3: Demonstrations of High Value<\/h2>\n<p>The concept of \u201cdemonstrating higher value\u201d was popularized by Mystery \u2013 the famous pick-up artist who introduced \u201cpeacocking\u201d and attraction-building routines like \u201cThe Cube\u201d to the mainstream world.<\/p>\n<p>Although the these two techniques are ridiculed in the present day, DHVs remain as powerful as ever when utilied correctly.<\/p>\n<p>Women want to date upwards on the status scale, just as much as men want to date upwards on the hotness scale.<\/p>\n<p>If you can subtly pepper in clues about your high status into your conversations, it\u2019ll help her feel attracted to you. Subtlety is the key here. Without this, DHVs come across as arrogant, boastful and try-hard.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/become-high-value-man\/\">6 Ways to Demonstrate \u201cHigh Value\u201d to a Woman<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Topic #4. An Assumption, Opinion or Observation About Her<\/h2>\n<p>Yes, you could ask boring interview style questions \u2013 Where are you from, what do you do, do you come here often? \u2013 but assumptions make this seem less like an interview or an interrogation.<\/p>\n<p>People love to talk about themselves. If you <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-first-date-questions\/\">ask a woman a question<\/a> about herself, she may rabbit on and on, making you feel like the conversation is going brilliantly.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is she doesn\u2019t see you as any different to anyone else who has asked that same question.<\/p>\n<p>The key to differentiating yourself is to give an opinion on her answer, based on your experience of life. Now, you\u2019re discussing her favorite conversation topic but offering unique insight.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s compelling and will give her more motivation to see you again.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of asking questions, you can simply comment on anything she\u2019s wearing. Offer your opinion on what it says about her.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #5: Sex<\/h2>\n<p>If you can speak about sex in a casual and non-crude way, it demonstrates you\u2019re aware it isn\u2019t a big deal. It shows you\u2019re comfortable with your sexuality and you don\u2019t judge women who jump into bed with new men.<\/p>\n<p>The subconscious message you\u2019re sending is that you probably have a lot of sex \u2013 and that you won\u2019t turn into that creep who falls in love and sends her dozens of text messages if she sleeps with you.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/8-flirting-topics\/\">8 Conversation Topics That Bring Up Sex<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/13-flirty-lines\/\">13 Flirty Lines That Ignite Sexual Attraction<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/sexual-teasing\/\">Use The \u201cSexual Teasing\u201d Technique<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Topic #6. Tease Her<\/h2>\n<p>Teasing her shows you\u2019re comfortable around her and not intimidated by her beauty. Light-heartedly decide some undesirable personality quality she has (messy, ditzy, bitchy, stuck up) then make assumptions or call her out on this. It\u2019s usually best to pick a quality she clearly doesn\u2019t have.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re stuck in a platonic level with a girl, and want to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">start to flirt with her<\/a>, teasing is the easiest way to brings things to a flirtatious level.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #7. Anything You\u2019re Passionate About<\/h2>\n<p>A passionate male will always appear attractive, no matter what interests him. If you can demonstrate excitement and emotion when talking about your hobbies, it shows a lust for life that\u2019ll draw her into your world. It\u2019s an emotion she\u2019ll want to bask in again and again.<\/p>\n<p>Explain how it makes you feel when you\u2019re engaging in your passion.<\/p>\n<p>Women love when men talk about their emotions. If you\u2019re working on a plan to make a living out of it, talk about that too. This shows drive and determination; these are personality traits she\u2019s likely to find very attractive.<\/p>\n<p>Talk about your passions. If you speak about any topic with enough enthusiasm, it\u2019s possible to draw people in. Women want to see that you have a passion for something.<\/p>\n<h2>#8: Your ideal woman<\/h2>\n<p>Tell her what you look for in a perfect woman.<\/p>\n<p>Once again, this shows you\u2019re proud of your sexuality \u2013 and also that you won\u2019t just date any bimbo with a pretty face and decent boobs.<\/p>\n<p>Ideally, it\u2019ll result in her selling her best qualities to you. This puts you in a brilliant position when it comes to seeing her again. Women prefer to date a man they had to work for.<\/p>\n<h3>Topic #9. A compliment<\/h3>\n<p>A lot of shy guys are\u00a0scared to show their intent, leaving women confused as to whether they\u2019re on a date at all.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be afraid to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/guide-to-complimenting-girls\/\">compliment<\/a> anything you like about her appearance.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/5-compliments-for-girls\/\">The 5 Best Compliments to Give a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/banter-lines-to-use-on-girls\/\">10 \u201cBanter Lines\u201d to Use on a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-formulas\/\">Follow these 4 \u201cFlirting Formulas\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Topic #10. Anything she\u2019s just said\u2026<\/h3>\n<p>The most common conversational tip is LISTEN. She\u2019ll offer conversational branches for you to swing from all the time.\u00a0 Very often if pay attention, you&#8217;ll find that there are dozens of different threads you can create out of her sentence.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, if she&#8217;s telling you a story about her boss, you can transition into a story about the worst boss you ever had back when you were in high school.<\/p>\n<p>It sounds obvious, but if you\u2019re too stuck in your head thinking of things to say, you might not listen properly.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-to-talk-about-with-girls\/\">How to Use What She Says to Move Forward<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Topic #11. Moving the Conversation into the Past or the Future<\/h2>\n<p>Whenever a conversation is stuck in the present moment, it\u2019s seconds away from dying. By moving it into the past or future, it can live forever.<\/p>\n<p>For example, if she says: \u201cThis cocktail is tasty.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You could go into the past\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI bet you never used to drink cocktails, but then you met your classy friends and started drinking them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Or future\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI can already picture what you\u2019re going to look like if you have one more of those.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Both options beat remaining in the present<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYeah, mine is nice too.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #12. Seeding the Pull<\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s good to have a pre-prepared excuse for the two of you to go home together. Mention this excuse\u00a0before you\u2019re ready to leave, so it\u2019s not a big surprise when you bring it up again later.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, if you have an adorable dog back at your place, you can talk about him for a bit, and make a comment about how she&#8217;s going to fall in love with him instantly when she meets him.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #13. Callback Humor<\/h2>\n<p>If she laughed at something when you\u2019d previously met, bring it up again.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-role-playing\/\">Use &#8220;Role Plays&#8221; for Call-Back Humor<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/funny-flirting-with-girls\/\">&#8220;Flirting Humor&#8221; Made Simple<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-make-a-woman-laugh\/\">Weird Technique to Make Girls Laugh<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Topic #14. Show Her Your memes or Take Stupid Dog-Ears Selfies<\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019re dating a millennial, she\u2019ll probably love it.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #15. Screen her<\/h2>\n<p>So many guys make the mistakes of being sold on a woman just because she\u2019s hot. This is boring and predictable for a woman as it leaves no space for\u00a0her to chase.<br \/>\nDon\u2019t be that guy.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, decide what personality traits your ideal woman should have, then ask questions (or make assumptions) that\u2019ll help you find out if she has them.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #16. Screening for Logistics<\/h2>\n<p>If you trying to\u00a0pull her home, this needs to be done at some point. Where does she live? What does she have planned for the rest of the day? What is she doing in the morning?<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See also:<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/questions-to-ask-girl\/\">3 Questions to Ask to Take Her Home<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Topic #17: What to do next<\/h2>\n<p>The best way to avoid \u201cconversations to nowhere\u201d is to make future plans. If possible, make plans for the immediate future.<\/p>\n<p>This could be getting a drink at the bar together, grabbing some food or taking a cab back to your house. Whatever you suggest, it shows you have leadership abilities and that you\u2019re spontaneous. These are two very attractive qualities. Too many men don\u2019t do this because they\u2019re scared that a rejection will ruin the pleasant conversation.<\/p>\n<p>If she\u2019s unable to go anywhere with you immediately, exchange phone numbers and arrange an activity to do another time.<\/p>\n<p>The fact you have the balls to do this, rather than let the conversation peter out to the inevitable \u201cnice to meet you\u201d, is attractive in itself.<\/p>\n<h2>Topic #18. That Outrageous Joke in Your Head<\/h2>\n<p>If there\u2019s a joke you\u2019d tell in front of your buddies, make it here.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s no point filtering your true personality just because she\u2019s beautiful. Women hate being put on pedestal like this.<\/p>\n<p>For all you know, she has a dorky sense of humor too. Most people do \u2013 and having the social freedom to tell these jokes can be attractive. It beats being bland.<\/p>\n<h2>The Golden Triangle: 3 Elements of an Attractive Conversation<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/W1ZP185Ha-s\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Download Charismatic Conversation Secrets<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How to Bring up These Things to Say on a Date<\/h2>\n<p>Men are very logical-minded. Many think that the conversation needs to lead up to a certain topic for it to make sense.<\/p>\n<p>Women don\u2019t care about this though. Seriously, listen in on any female chatting with her best friend. The topic changes more times than the hands on a clock.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t overthink it.<\/p>\n<p>Just say \u201cI want to talk about\u201d and go right ahead.<\/p>\n<p>If you can pair these things to say on a date with <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/nonverbal-flirting\/\">strong body language<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-formulas\/\">basic flirting<\/a>, you\u2019ll be on to a winner.<\/p>\n<h2>The bottom line on Things to Say on a Date<\/h2>\n<p>Hopefully this list helps you feel more comfortable going out to meet new people.<\/p>\n<p>However, it remains true that the most important thing is to speak with confidence and assertiveness.<\/p>\n<p>If you believe what you have to say is awesome, she\u2019ll typically feel the same way.<\/p>\n<p>Once you\u2019re at this point, you really can get away with most conversation topics.<\/p>\n<h2>99.9% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RkDNenCvqsQ\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/unlock-the-scrambler-system\/\"><strong>Learn the Steps of \u201cThe Scrambler\u201d Now<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating&gt;\u00a0Conversation &gt; Things to Say on a Date by Coaching Staff \u2022 Updated: July 20, 2022 See also 5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn Every Woman On 4 Ways to &#8220;Vibe&#8221; with a Girl 99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS The Best Things to Say on a First Date Have you been stuck [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-409","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/409","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=409"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/409\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1815,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/409\/revisions\/1815"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=409"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}