{"id":419,"date":"2022-09-06T18:03:24","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T18:03:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=419"},"modified":"2022-09-14T13:33:29","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T13:33:29","slug":"how-to-speak-a-womans-language","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Speak a Woman&#8217;s Language"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating <\/a>&gt;\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-talk-to-women\/\">Conversation<\/a> &gt; Speak Her Language<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Rob Judge \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: August 3, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"ps:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">Best Conversation Topics with Girls<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">The #1 Secret to &#8220;Chemistry&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1798\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"how to speak a womans language\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3>Understanding the Language Girl&#8217;s Speak<\/h3>\n<p><em>Ton corps est mon tre&#8217;sor. <\/em><em>Je te de&#8217;sire<\/em><em>.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Do you know what that means?<\/p>\n<p>Unless you can read French, I could have typed &#8220;dkljdsklj dskljdsjfsklj kjsdkljdslfsjl&#8221; and it would have just as much meaning to you.<\/p>\n<p>Your eyes would just glaze over and the words would have absolutely no impact.<\/p>\n<p>This holds true when you speak to women.<\/p>\n<p>While you may converse with her in English, if you don&#8217;t speak &#8220;woman,&#8221; then much of what you say will not register with her.<\/p>\n<p>Now, let me pause for a moment and clarify that I&#8217;m <em>not<\/em>\u00a0advocating you speak to women as if you\u00a0<em>were<\/em> a woman, nor am I saying you should try to be something you&#8217;re not just to make a woman like you.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, I&#8217;m simply advocating that you <strong>understand the &#8220;language of women&#8221;<\/strong> so that you can better communicate with them.<\/p>\n<p>The way I speak to my guy friends and the way I speak to my <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-get-girlfriend\/\">girlfriend<\/a> are very different; yet I&#8217;m always genuine and authentic.<\/p>\n<p>Since the entire point of having a conversation is to <em>communicate<\/em>, I know my message is best communicated when I understand the &#8220;language&#8221; of who I&#8217;m speaking with.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Step #1: Translate Facts into Emotions<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>When men speak with one another, our communication-style is usually logical and fact-oriented.<\/p>\n<p>If I were to tell a guy friend a story, I&#8217;d focus on the &#8220;who, what, where, when&#8221; of the story.<\/p>\n<p>If I started getting all gushy and emotional, I&#8217;d probably bore my masculine listener.<\/p>\n<p>With women, however, that&#8217;s not the case.<\/p>\n<p>If I were<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/telling-stories-on-date\/\"> reciting a story<\/a> to my girlfriend, I&#8217;d translate the facts of my stories into feelings.<\/p>\n<p>For example, I wouldn&#8217;t just tell my girlfriend, &#8220;I ate a bagel this morning.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I would describe to her the <em>experience<\/em> of eating that bagel.<\/p>\n<p><strong>For example:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Maybe it was a soggy bagel and it ruined my morning<\/li>\n<li>Maybe it was a scrumptious bagel and it left a smile on my face until noon<\/li>\n<li>Or maybe eating that bagel made me feel guilty because, right before I bit into it, a commercial for &#8220;Feed the Starving Children in Africa&#8221; came on.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now, the bagel example may be a bit absurd, but I hope it drives home the point. Rather than just listing facts of my day, I&#8217;m translating those facts into <em>emotions<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>The easiest way to become a good &#8220;translator&#8221; of woman-speak is by asking yourself:<\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;But how did it make me feel?&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you state a fact, and you want to translate that fact into &#8220;woman,&#8221; <strong>then answer the question: but how did it make you feel?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You may have only eaten a bagel &#8220;but how did that bagel make you <em>feel?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>Don&#8217;t Go Overboard<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Again, this exercise isn&#8217;t intended to make you neurotic. You don&#8217;t need to become Mr. Emotional Translator for everything you say.<\/p>\n<p>However, keeping this simple tip up your sleeve can work magic on a date, or <em>whenever<\/em> you&#8217;re conversing with women.<\/p>\n<p>If you find a woman becoming bored or disinterested in what you&#8217;re saying, it&#8217;s probably time to start speaking her language.<\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself &#8220;but how did it make me feel?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>As you answer your question out loud, you&#8217;ll find women perking up, paying closer attention to you, and better understanding you.<\/p>\n<h2>This Injects &#8220;Emotion&#8221; into a Conversation<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gScb2dP5HpY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/makeherhornywithhumor.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Make Her Want You with Humor<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Why Speaking Her Language is Attractive<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Most guys never consider the &#8220;communication breakdown&#8221; that happens between men and women.<\/p>\n<p>All too often, guys just converse with ladies as if they were pretty men with vaginas. And then we act surprised when we aren&#8217;t dating our dream girl or not enjoying the love life we want.<\/p>\n<p>Much of the misunderstanding between men and women lies in the way we communicate with one another. Women often don&#8217;t understand why men find certain things important, and men often don&#8217;t understand why women get all emotional over trivial bullshit (soap operas and romance novels anyone?).<\/p>\n<p>If you want to augment <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">your attractiveness<\/a>, converse with women in a way that makes sense to her.<\/p>\n<p>If you can sprinkle some emotion into your conversations, you will demonstrate you &#8220;understand&#8221; her. Not only that, she will feel an &#8220;instant connection&#8221; what&#8217;s otherwise known as chemistry.<\/p>\n<p>It will be as if she&#8221;s a French tourist, lost in America and can&#8217;t speak English. As every other guy tries to give her directions in English and then gets frustrated when she can&#8217;t understand, you&#8217;ll be the one person who can converse with her in a way that makes sense.<\/p>\n<p>And when you tell her, &#8220;<em>Ton corps est mon tre&#8217;sor. <\/em><em>Je te de&#8217;sire&#8221;<\/em><em>\u00a0<\/em>she will understand exactly what you mean.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-formulas\/\">4 &#8220;Flirting Formulas&#8221; to Use<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/vibing-with-girls\/\">How to &#8220;Vibe&#8221; with a Girl Instantly<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/4-ways-to-touch-a-girl\/\">4 Ways to &#8220;Touch&#8221; a Girl\u00a0<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/chick-crack\/\">&#8220;THESE&#8221; Techniques are Like Crack for Girls<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/chick-crack\/\">5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn Every Woman On<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating &gt;\u00a0Conversation &gt; Speak Her Language by Rob Judge \u2022 Updated: August 3, 2022 See also Best Conversation Topics with Girls The #1 Secret to &#8220;Chemistry&#8221; 99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS Understanding the Language Girl&#8217;s Speak Ton corps est mon tre&#8217;sor. Je te de&#8217;sire.\u00a0 Do you know what that means? 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