{"id":428,"date":"2022-09-06T17:53:54","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T17:53:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=428"},"modified":"2022-09-08T14:48:47","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T14:48:47","slug":"small-talk","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/small-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"20 Tips for Making Small Talk with Women Sexier&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>\u00a0&gt;\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-talk-to-women\/\">Conversation<\/a> &gt; Small Talk<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: September\u00a0 06, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"ps:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">Best Conversation Topics with Girls<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/run-out-things-to-say\/\">4 Tips for Endless Conversation<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1643\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/maxresdefault-37-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"small talk with girls\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/maxresdefault-37-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/maxresdefault-37-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/maxresdefault-37-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/maxresdefault-37.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>Small Talk Secrets<\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to\u00a0talking to women, it seems one of the hardest aspects for men is making <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Small_talk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">small talk.<\/a>\u00a0 While most of you can probably make small talk\u2026 the question is\u2026 can you make small talk fun, playful, and sexy?<\/p>\n<p>Or do you just wind up boring the woman?<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s take the time right now to really break down the art of small talk, and really figure how to make small talk exciting and attractive-rather than dull and boring.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let\u2019s understand:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>What type of small talk women find boring<\/li>\n<li>What type of small talk women find fun<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>With this approach it will help us gain some understanding of the criteria that is most important.\u00a0 And then I can give you some good small talk tips.<\/p>\n<h2>The 90% Rule<\/h2>\n<p>Have you ever noticed that most conversations don\u2019t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?<\/p>\n<p>This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up \u2013 making yourself ready to start that conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Small talk needs time to build \u201cconversation momentum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The problem most guys face is that don\u2019t ever give their small talk a chance to build that \u201cmomentum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Most guys expect to hit this \u201cconversation flow\u201d too quickly. And because of this the opposite effect happens\u2026 and their conversations just \u201cstall out.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Well you have to carry the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by <strong>providing 90%, or even sometimes 100% of all the content<\/strong> until the girl gets warmed up a little bit.<\/p>\n<p>How do you do that?<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s what we&#8217;re going to cover in this S<strong>mall Talk guide<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"#smalltalktips\"><strong>Skip to 20 Tips to Make Small Talk More Fun and Flirtatious<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>1. What makes Small Talk Boring?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>a.) Any type of small talk that seems forced or awkward is a really big turn off for women.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Women don\u2019t like awkwardness.\u00a0 And if a woman senses that you\u2019re shy, nervous, or insecure around you, she is likely not going to invest in the conversation.\u00a0 And if she isn\u2019t interested in keeping the conversation going\u2026 it will make your job much harder.<\/p>\n<p><strong>b.) Women hate \u201cinterview style\u201d small talk.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u201cInterview style\u201d small talk is when you just continually ask a woman a series of questions about her job, school, family, hometown, ect.\u00a0 This gets boring fast.<\/p>\n<p>This type of small talk is especially boring if she senses that you\u2019re not even listening to her answers.\u00a0 There is nothing worse than someone who is just asking questions because he can\u2019t think of any other way to keep the conversation going.<\/p>\n<p><strong>c.) Women hate &#8220;uncomfortable silence&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>One of the worst things you can do during small talk is to let there be a series of uncomfortable silences.<\/p>\n<p>Brief silence from time to time is ok.\u00a0 But if you hear birds chirping during your conversations with women\u2026 chances are she is getting bored.<\/p>\n<p>You must be able to keep a conversation going if you want to make small talk that attracts women.<\/p>\n<p><strong>d.)<\/strong> <strong>Avoid small talk topics that could lead to unnecessary ill feelings.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>While a little playful \u201cbanter\u201d with a woman is fine. Small talk topics like religion or politics might wind up stirring up some ill feelings that could have easily been avoided if you stick to some of the <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">conversation topics<\/a> we\u2019ll talk about in the next section.<br \/>\nUnderstanding these issues, you really can\u2019t blame for not wanting a weak, insecure, inexperienced, boring, or disheveled man who can\u2019t keep a conversation interested.\u00a0 Ask yourself\u2026 do you enjoy this type of conversation?<\/p>\n<h2>5 &#8220;Nice Guy&#8221; Conversation Mistakes<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Ut1ZUCkXSuM\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Download Charismatic Conversation Secrets<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now let\u2019s talk about\u2026<\/p>\n<h2><strong>2. What Small Talk is Interesting to Women?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>a.) Women love small talk that involves conversation topics that they find interesting.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve identified 12 conversation topics that work best for connecting with a woman.\u00a0 Some of these topics include music, food, childhood memories, observations about her, and traveling.\u00a0 If you want to read more about this, read this article on the best conversation topics.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">Here are the best conversation topics for small talk<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-to-talk-about-date\/\">14 Interesting Things to Talk About<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>b.) Draw out emotions out of the woman you\u2019re talking to.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Woman love feeling emotions.\u00a0 This is why topics like traveling, childhood memories, and music work really well for making small talk.\u00a0 Because these topics tend to lead a woman into an emotional state.\u00a0 It is much easier to connect with someone and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-rapport-with-woman\/\">create rapport<\/a> when the both of you are in a highly charged emotional state.<\/p>\n<p><strong>See Also:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language\/\">Speaking a woman&#8217;s emotional language<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>c.) Keep the small talk \u201cin the moment.\u201d\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This means that you\u2019re laughing and making jokes about what is currently going on around you.<\/p>\n<p>This is because it identifies the two of you are connecting.\u00a0 You can stay in the moment by making observations about your surroundings.\u00a0 Or you can stay in the moment by making observations about her.\u00a0 Remember, women love talking about themselves.<\/p>\n<p><strong>d.) Appear relaxed, confident, and playful<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You want to make sure that you appear relaxed, confident, and playful while making small talk with a girl.\u00a0 You also want to try to make sure that you\u2019re the one leading the conversation along.<\/p>\n<p>Women like men who take control.\u00a0 They don\u2019t want the burden of keeping the conversation going.<\/p>\n<p><strong>f.) <\/strong>Another good tactic for keeping small talk interesting is to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/telling-stories-on-date\/\">tell good stories<\/a>.\u00a0 A good story will interest just about anyone you\u2019re talking to. So instead of just reciting facts, tell stories that evoke emotions.<\/p>\n<h3>These 5 Tricks Spark the Vibe<\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/z9HDPzah4RI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Download Charismatic Conversation Secrets<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>See Also:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/spark-vibe-with-girl\/\">5 Ways to Spark the &#8220;Flirty Vibe&#8221;<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-when-you-flirt\/\">What talk about to start flirting<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/confidence-secrets\/\">5 Confidence Secrets to Use<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a name=\"smalltalktips\"><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><strong>20 Ways to Make Small Talk More Flirtatious<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>#1.\u00a0 When talking to women, focus on making statements and expressing opinions rather that just asking her a bunch of questions.<\/p>\n<p>#2.\u00a0 Focus a good chunk of the conversation on her.\u00a0 Make observations about her sense of style, traits of her personality, or your initial impression of her.<\/p>\n<p>#3.\u00a0 Don\u2019t use \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/guide-to-complimenting-girls\/\">compliments<\/a>\u201d as a means to keep the conversation going.\u00a0 Excessively complimenting a woman because you can\u2019t think of anything else to say will not impress her.\u00a0 It will bore her.<\/p>\n<p>#4.\u00a0 Find little games to play in your conversation.\u00a0 In my free report, <strong>Small Talk Tactics<\/strong>, I list three really good games you can play with women.<\/p>\n<p>#5.\u00a0 Keep the <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/best-conversation-topics-dating\/\">topics of conversation<\/a> focused on things like childhood memories, observations, travel, unusual stories, or interests and passions.<\/p>\n<p>#6.\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">Flirt<\/a> and begin to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/banter-lines-to-use-on-girls\/\">banter with a woman<\/a>.\u00a0 This makes the small talk incredible sexy.<\/p>\n<p>#7.\u00a0 Try to be a little cock and funny.<\/p>\n<p>#8.\u00a0 If you run out of things to say, and face awkward silence\u2026 instead of pretending it isn\u2019t happening, simply make a joke like \u201cwow, we just had our first uncomfortable silence\u2026 don\u2019t worry, we\u2019ll get through it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>#9.\u00a0 Don\u2019t be afraid to voice your opinion and disagree with her.\u00a0 It is better that you express your personality.<\/p>\n<p>#10.\u00a0 Tell her engaging stories.\u00a0 Women like drama, emotions, and intrigue.\u00a0 Learn to tell a story in a way that captures her attention.<\/p>\n<p>#11.\u00a0 Don\u2019t treat small talk like a job interview.\u00a0 Instead, be relaxed and playful.<\/p>\n<p>#12.\u00a0 Use <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/cold-reading-girls\">cold reading techniques<\/a>.\u00a0 This is a great way to make observations about her.\u00a0 One of the best is the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/seductionroadmap.com\/strawberrytest\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Strawberry Fields Routine<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>#13.\u00a0 If you\u2019re new to this, and don\u2019t know what to say, don\u2019t be afraid to use canned pua routines.\u00a0 Eventually you\u2019ll want to make up your own though.<\/p>\n<p>#14.\u00a0 Avoid complimenting a woman on her looks, eyes, or body.<\/p>\n<p>#15.\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/5-compliments-for-girls\/\">Compliment a woman<\/a> on her personality, her sense of style, or her \u201cenergy\u201d<\/p>\n<p>#16.\u00a0 If the two of you are having a good time, don\u2019t be afraid to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/sexual-teasing\/\">introduce elements of sexuality<\/a> into a conversation.<\/p>\n<p>#17.\u00a0 Tease her.<\/p>\n<p>#18.\u00a0 Don\u2019t be afraid to call a woman out on her bullshit.\u00a0 If she is saying something that is obviously not true\u2026 call her out on it.\u00a0 It will impress her that you picked up on it.<\/p>\n<p>#19.\u00a0 Use <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-role-playing\/\">\u201crole playing\u201d<\/a>\u00a0to keep a conversation fun.\u00a0 This is a technique that I talk about in the\u00a0<strong>Small Talk Tactics<\/strong>\u00a0report.<\/p>\n<p>#20.\u00a0 Never apologize for your desire as a man. If you\u2019re talking to a woman, and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/13-flirty-lines\/\">if you\u2019re attracted to her in a sexual way let her know<\/a>.\u00a0 It will keep you out of the friend zone, and it will make the small talk much more interesting.<\/p>\n<p>So, there you have 20 ways to make small talk more fun, interesting, and playful.<\/p>\n<h2>99.9% of Women Will Chase You When You Say &#8220;THIS&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RkDNenCvqsQ\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/unlock-the-scrambler-system\/\"><strong>Discover the &#8220;Scrambler Technique&#8221;\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating\u00a0&gt;\u00a0Conversation &gt; Small Talk by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: September\u00a0 06, 2022 See also Best Conversation Topics with Girls 4 Tips for Endless Conversation 99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS Small Talk Secrets When it comes to\u00a0talking to women, it seems one of the hardest aspects for men is making small [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-428","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/428","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=428"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/428\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1646,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/428\/revisions\/1646"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=428"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}