{"id":479,"date":"2022-08-23T14:55:01","date_gmt":"2022-08-23T14:55:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=479"},"modified":"2022-09-14T13:11:12","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T13:11:12","slug":"conversation-with-girls","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/conversation-with-girls\/","title":{"rendered":"The &#8220;Golden Triangle&#8221; of Attractive Conversation with Girls"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><span style=\"font-size: 13.3333px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>&gt;\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-talk-to-women\/\">Conversation<\/a> &gt; Golden Triangle<\/span><\/small><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 13.3333px;\">by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: July 30, 2022<\/span><\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-when-you-flirt\/\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.3333px;\">9 Ways to Have Better Conversations with Her<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/spark-vibe-with-girl\/\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.3333px;\">5 Tricks to Spark &#8220;The Vibe&#8221; with Her<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\"><span style=\"font-size: 13.3333px;\">99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS<\/span><\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1771\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/attractive-conversation-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"attractive conversation\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/attractive-conversation-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/attractive-conversation-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/attractive-conversation-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/attractive-conversation.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>3 Elements of Attractive Conversation<\/h2>\n<p>When you&#8217;re talking to a woman; how do you create attraction?<\/p>\n<p>How do you <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">get her feeling chemistry<\/a> so that she thinks, <em>\u201cWow, there&#8217;s something here. I don&#8217;t want this to end\u201d?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s what we&#8217;re going to discuss in this article.<\/p>\n<p>Because I want to share with you something I call <strong>The Golden Triangle.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And this how to have a conversation that makes a woman want you more.\u00a0 This is how to have a conversation that gets a woman feeling attraction toward you.<\/p>\n<p>I know sometimes as myself, an introvert, when I get around a woman, a lot of times my mind would go blank. Back then, I would get in front of her and I&#8217;d have all these ideas and then I&#8217;d be like, wait a minute, what should I be talking about?<\/p>\n<p>And, I&#8217;d wind up just going, <em>&#8220;So what do you do for work?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Or, the other stupid questions that we all ask when we don&#8217;t know what to say.<\/p>\n<p>But as I studied men who were naturally good with women, and I realized there were three specific ingredients that, if you weave them into your conversation, you\u2019ll end up creating chemistry.<\/p>\n<p>And<strong> the &#8220;Golden Triangle&#8221;<\/strong> is a way to organize this information in your mind<\/p>\n<h2>So what are the three things that make up the golden triangle?<\/h2>\n<p>Ok, let&#8217;s go each of three elements you want to weave into your conversations with women.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Fun<\/li>\n<li>Connection<\/li>\n<li>Intimacy<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>All three ingredients must be in place, if you&#8217;re missing even one of them, you\u2019ll end up in the\u00a0 &#8220;friend zone&#8221; or the &#8220;creep zone&#8221;.\u00a0 As you&#8217;ll see as we go through them.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Golden Triangle Part #1: Fun<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>There are certain things that are universally fun.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Surprise is Fun: <\/strong>When you expect something to go one way and then it doesn&#8217;t meet your expectations, but in a good way.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Being Spontaneous is Fun:<\/strong>When you think back of some of your most fun moments, it&#8217;s probably when you did something spur-of-the-moment. We all remember the impromptu trip we went on with our friends.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Playfulness is Fun: <\/strong>I use the terminology <strong>\u201cTake her back to the playground.\u201d<\/strong> Things that were fun on the playground back in the fourth grade are also fun in the context of dating, because you\u2019re with someone you\u2019re attracted to.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Taking her back to the playground could include:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Having a pillow fight<\/li>\n<li>Thumb wrestling<\/li>\n<li>Creating imaginary scenarios<\/li>\n<li>Role playing<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Remove Her From Reality<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The biggest mistake guys make is keeping their conversations within reality. They talk about their jobs, troubles, bosses, and vacations.<\/p>\n<p>To create chemistry and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">attraction<\/a>, you need to remove her from everyday reality. And you do that by playing little childish games with her.<\/p>\n<p>Say to a woman, <em>&#8220;Wouldn\u2019t it be cool if we were top-secret spies right now&#8230;&#8221;<\/em> and build an imaginary scenario, then get her giving input to co-create the moment with you. \u00a0This bonds you together by removing the two of you from everyday reality.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Teasing is Fun<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Another key part of fun is teasing. A lot of guys get teasing wrong.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t tease somebody about something that they&#8217;re insecure about. That&#8217;s like being the bully on the playground. You tease somebody about something that they&#8217;re proud about. You&#8217;re playful about something that you know is actually a compliment.<\/p>\n<p>This is what makes teasing a great way to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">flirt with a girl.<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Example of Being Fun Through &#8220;Teasing&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p>If you&#8217;re talking to a woman and you find out that she went to Harvard, you can say, &#8220;Hey, so do you find a way to inject the fact that you went to Harvard into every conversation? Do you accidentally leave your diploma on the seat of your car and say \u2018How did that get there?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You can tease her about that, because it&#8217;s something that makes her feel good, but she can laugh about it because some of it&#8217;s probably true.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if she didn&#8217;t go to college, you&#8217;re not going to tease her about that, because that&#8217;s an insecurity she might have.<\/p>\n<p>If someone is dressed really well, you can say, <em>&#8220;Come on, it took you 18 hours just to pick out that outfit, right?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Danger: Fun By Itself<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>All three parts of the Golden Triangle are necessary. If you only did the fun element, she might go, \u201cThat was really fun,\u201d but she\u2019ll forget you because she feels no connection.<\/p>\n<p><strong>More on Being Fun:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-formulas\/\">4 &#8220;Flirting Formulas&#8221;<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-make-a-woman-laugh\/\">How to Make Her Laugh<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/8-flirting-topics\/\">8 Topics for Flirting with Her<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So let\u2019s move on to the next part of the triangle.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Golden Triangle Part #2: Connection<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A big misconception guys have about &#8220;connecting with women&#8221; is they think it means &#8220;we like the same things.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Connection is not about simply liking the same things.<\/p>\n<p>When I ask clients, &#8220;What do you like about her?&#8221; Many of them say, &#8220;Oh, we both liked the same music and we both like going mountain biking and we both like hiking.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s not connection. Women don&#8217;t want a guy who&#8217;s exactly like them.<\/p>\n<p>Women want an <strong>&#8220;emotional connection.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>\u00a0Connecting Over Emotional Experiences<\/h3>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>You get to know somebody by getting inside their head, seeing the world through their eyes, and then relating to that.<\/p>\n<p>Keep the emotions light. You don\u2019t want to say, \u201cI had an overbearing mother growing up and she liked my brother better than me.\u201d You don&#8217;t want to bond over these negative emotions.<\/p>\n<p>Bond over light emotions.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Example of Connecting with a woman:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Tell her a story about how, when you were seven years old, you found out there was no such thing as Santa Claus because you went into the closet and you saw all the toys. And you thought, <em>\u201cIf I tell my mom that I found the toys, I&#8217;m not going to get presents. Do I pretend that I still believe in Santa Claus because I want my parents to keep up the charade?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the kind of childhood experience that you can tell in a way that bonds her to you.<\/p>\n<p>The <strong>light internal conflict.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A good topic to bring up is &#8220;bad dates&#8221; from the past.<\/p>\n<p>You could say, <em>\u201cI went out with this one girl and she looked nothing like her pictures. In her pictures she was this petite Asian. I get there and it&#8217;s a 200-pound white girl. In my head I&#8217;m thinking \u2018What do I do? Do I bring it up? What&#8217;s the etiquette on that? Or do I just sneak out to my car and leave?\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re sharing that emotion of disappointment and being conflicted. She can relate to that. Even if she&#8217;s never had that experience, she can put herself in your shoes.<\/p>\n<p>Get her to share emotional experiences, too. When you take the lead, she&#8217;ll come back and tell something similar. She&#8217;ll be putting herself out there and you&#8217;ll be relating to her.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s where connection happens.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Danger: Connection By Itself<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Connection has got to be done within the context of all three parts of the Golden Triangle. If you just spend the whole conversation connecting, <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wussy-mistakes\/\">you\u2019ll wind up in the friend zone<\/a> because you didn\u2019t create any intimacy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>More on Connection:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-rapport-with-woman\/\">Creating Deep and Wide Rapport<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-speak-a-womans-language\/\">Speaking the &#8220;Language of Emotion&#8221;<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/telling-stories-on-date\/\">3 Steps to Telling a Good Story<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So let\u2019s move on to the next part of the triangle.<\/p>\n<h2>99.9% of Women Fall in Love When You Say &#8220;THIS&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RkDNenCvqsQ\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/unlock-the-scrambler-system\/\"><strong>Learn the &#8220;Scrambler Technique&#8221;<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Golden Triangle Part #3: Intimacy<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>We&#8217;ve all had good conversations with somebody we&#8217;re not attracted to.<\/p>\n<p>Intimacy is the ingredient that separates an attractive conversation from a conversation you would have with your friends.<\/p>\n<p>How do you bring intimacy into a conversation?<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Eye Contact is Intimacy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>You wouldn\u2019t hold eye contact with a friend. So when you hold it a bit longer than usual with a woman, it sends the message that this is not just a friendly chat.<\/p>\n<p>A great time to do this is an awkward silence. Instead of rushing to fill the silence, holding eye contact will show that you can handle the tension. This creates attraction.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Touching is Intimacy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>When you\u2019re on a date with a woman, you want to begin touching her early and often.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019re talking about touching her in G-rated places, like her hand, her forearm, her elbow, or her back. These brief touches work under the radar as \u201cInvisible Escalation,\u201d causing a feeling of intimacy to grow. Because again, this is not what you would do with your friends.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Compliments are Intimacy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Intimacy can also be compliments, but not the type of compliments most guys use. So I call them specific compliments, because you don&#8217;t give specific compliments to somebody you&#8217;re not attracted to.<\/p>\n<p>If a girl has nice eyes or is beautiful, telling her, \u201cYou have amazing eyes,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re so beautiful,\u201d is going to be a boring, general compliment, because she hears it from everyone all the time.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>On the other hand, you can create intimacy by telling her a specific compliment about something you find attractive about her.<\/p>\n<p>You could point to a little freckle on her shoulder and say, &#8220;I love that little freckle on your shoulder. It&#8217;s sexy.&#8221;<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Making the Conversation R-rated is Intimacy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Think of the movie rating system. G-rated is completely family friendly. R-rated is full of edgier topics. You can create intimacy by introducing R-rated elements into your conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s say you\u2019re talking about TV shows and she mentions that she\u2019s been watching <em>Outlander.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve seen Outlander, you know that it&#8217;s essentially porn for women. So you could make an R-rated implication by responding, &#8220;Oh yeah. I bet you watch <em>Outlander<\/em>. I bet you watch it with the door closed.&#8221; Give her a little look and now you\u2019re bringing that element of sexuality into the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Correctly injecting sexuality in a conversation is not about graphically talking about it. It&#8217;s about alluding to it. It\u2019s about challenging her a little bit about it.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Danger: Intimacy By Itself<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>If all you&#8217;re doing is touching her and making sexual comments, you&#8217;re going to become a creep. But if you&#8217;re connecting with her by telling childhood stories, then you add in some touching and edgy allusions to sex, that\u2019s where intimacy saves you from the friendzone and works to create chemistry.<\/p>\n<p>The key is that you\u2019re always rotating through the three parts of the Golden Triangle. You\u2019re not staying in any one area for too long.<\/p>\n<p>More on Intimacy:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/4-ways-to-touch-a-girl\/\">4 Ways to Start Touching a Girl<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/guide-to-complimenting-girls\/\">The Ultimate Guide to Giving Compliments<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/sexual-teasing\/\">Using &#8220;sexual teasing&#8221;to Flirt<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>5 &#8220;Words&#8221; That Turn all Women On<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VB6u_I5sb_E\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/magneticmessaging.com\/triggerwords\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Download the 66 Sexual Trigger Words<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>The Next Step for Sparking Attraction<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>This stuff didn\u2019t come naturally to me, I had to learn it from the ground up. If it doesn\u2019t come naturally to you, then I have a book to help with the process.<\/p>\n<p>The book is called <a href=\"http:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Charismatic Conversation Secrets<\/em><\/a>. It goes a lot deeper into the Golden Triangle of Conversation. It describes example after example of ways to create a fun vibe, an emotional connection, and sexy intimacy.<\/p>\n<p>It also details the mistakes you want to avoid.<\/p>\n<p>If conversation is something you want help with, <a href=\"http:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>grab a copy of Charismatic Conversation Secrets.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s $7 and you can order it at the link <a href=\"http:\/\/highstatushabits.com\/charismatic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating&gt;\u00a0Conversation &gt; Golden Triangle by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: July 30, 2022 See also 9 Ways to Have Better Conversations with Her 5 Tricks to Spark &#8220;The Vibe&#8221; with Her 99.9% of Girls Will Chase You When You Say THIS 3 Elements of Attractive Conversation When you&#8217;re talking to a woman; how do you create [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-479","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/479","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=479"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/479\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1772,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/479\/revisions\/1772"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=479"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}