{"id":499,"date":"2022-08-31T19:59:46","date_gmt":"2022-08-31T19:59:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=499"},"modified":"2022-09-14T13:36:30","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T13:36:30","slug":"when-she-doesnt-respond-to-text","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/when-she-doesnt-respond-to-text\/","title":{"rendered":"What to Text a Girl Who Didn&#8217;t Respond to Your Last Text"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>\u00a0&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/texting-girls\/\">Texting<\/a> &gt; What to Text<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Coaching Staff \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: August 30, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/funny-flirty-texts-to-send-a-girl\/\">Flirty Texts to Send a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/texts-that-reveal-how-she-feels\/\">15 Texts That Reveal How She Feels<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/10-rules-for-texting-a-girl\/\">10 Rules for Texting Girls<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1801\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/what-to-text-a-girl-who-didnt-respond-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"what to text a girl who didn't respond\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/what-to-text-a-girl-who-didnt-respond-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/what-to-text-a-girl-who-didnt-respond-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/what-to-text-a-girl-who-didnt-respond-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/what-to-text-a-girl-who-didnt-respond.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>6 Texts to Send When a Girl Doesn&#8217;t Respond<\/h2>\n<p>It&#8217;s a terrible feeling.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/how-to-flirt-with-girls\/\">flirting with a girl<\/a> who you&#8217;ve just met. Maybe you\u2019re just communicating through regular text messages, or maybe through a dating service like Tinder or OkCupid.<\/p>\n<p>Then, you send a message, and it goes unanswered.<\/p>\n<p>At this point, a lot of guys would just say,\u00a0 &#8220;move on, don&#8217;t bother trying to get a hold of her again.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Which to be fair, isn&#8217;t <em>terrible<\/em>\u00a0advice.<\/p>\n<p>If one of your buddies offers up that as a solution, he&#8217;s well read in basically telling you to not get played out or hung up on some girl who is flat out not interested.<\/p>\n<p>That dude only has your best interest in mind.<\/p>\n<p>However,\u00a0I would submit that just because a girl doesn&#8217;t respond to your last message doesn&#8217;t mean that you no longer have a chance with her and that the entire thing is unsalvageable.<\/p>\n<p>But I would review previous texts she said, and see if you can<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/texts-that-reveal-how-she-feels\/\"> decode her interest level through her texts<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially true in cases when you&#8217;ve had some great rapport and she seemed reasonably interested, and then she just dropped the conversation- seemingly for no reason.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, some cases are more suspect than others.<\/p>\n<p>For example, if the last text you sent was one asking her out on a date, that&#8217;s not a great sign in your favor.<\/p>\n<h2>2 Points to Remember When Texting with a Girl<\/h2>\n<p>But there are two things you need to realize and accept in these circumstances:<\/p>\n<p><strong>#1:\u00a0<\/strong> The woman on the other end of your magical digital device is a living, breathing person- with a life and many, many messages being slung her way every minute of the day.<\/p>\n<p>So it&#8217;s more than reasonable to believe that your message might have gotten lost in the mix or that she just got busy with something else entirely. Or both.<\/p>\n<p><strong>#2:<\/strong> You have absolutely nothing to lose, ever, by taking a shot.<\/p>\n<p>Especially at this point, the only thing that will guarantee that you never sleep with this girl is giving up. You have everything to gain by reaching out again.<\/p>\n<p>You miss 100% of the shots you don&#8217;t take.<\/p>\n<h2>The Rules for the &#8220;Follow Up&#8221; Text<\/h2>\n<p>So, decision to reach out in order to salvage your chances with this girl having been justified, what are the rules in doing so?<\/p>\n<h3>1. Wait a while.<\/h3>\n<p>Obviously a day or two has to go by before you can safely confirm that your message was not responded to.<\/p>\n<p>Normally the two to three day rule is complete crap, and I usually say to throw it out the window.<\/p>\n<p>However, in this circumstance, you actually will want to wait two to three days or so.<\/p>\n<p>Excluding weekends. So if you text her on a Friday and she doesn&#8217;t get back to you, you&#8217;d be messaging her on the next Tuesday at the earliest.<\/p>\n<p>More important than the length of time you wait is when you choose to send the message.<\/p>\n<p>Which is why weekends are off limits- they create a greater sense of desperation on your part.<\/p>\n<p>Tuesday through Thursday works best, especially in the middle of the day. There&#8217;s a form of spontaneity and surprise to your message- making it and you unique and therefore valuable.<\/p>\n<h3>2. Make it exciting.<\/h3>\n<p>When you do reach out, do not ever, ever seem hurt, offended or vulnerable about her lack of correspondence.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, her not getting back to you is the elephant in the room, and you can mention it in some way (in fact, we&#8217;re about to have some fun with that in just a minute).<\/p>\n<p>But what you want to avoid are boring, needy sounding phrases.\u00a0 (in fact, model one of <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/examples-of-good-texts\/\">these 7 attractive texts you can steal<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Avoid phrases like:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;hey, where did you go?&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;You still alive?<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0&#8220;hey, what happened?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Instead, you want to keep your tone playful, flirty and upbeat.<\/p>\n<h3>Text Her &#8220;THIS&#8221; If Is Been Awhile Since She&#8217;s Texted You Back<\/h3>\n<div class=\"kartra_video_container7hXwNZibc2dT js_kartra_trackable_object\" data-kt-type=\"video\" data-kt-value=\"7hXwNZibc2dT\" data-kt-owner=\"Xpe9Onpy\"><\/div>\n<p><script src=\"https:\/\/app.kartra.com\/video\/7hXwNZibc2dT\"><\/script><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=tsbcold&amp;vendor=aointrigue&amp;tid=textback\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">7 Things to Know Before Texting Her AGAIN\u00a0<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>6 Examples of Text to Send When She Hasn&#8217;t Texted Back<\/h2>\n<p>You could bring up an out-of-the-blue inside joke and play it much like an opening text, but I prefer to have a little fun with it, as mentioned before.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>&#8220;Agent Wasp, this is mission control checking in, what is the status of operation BEEHIVE&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;If you&#8217;ve been Taken let me know! I&#8217;ve been dying to go all Liam Neeson on somebody!&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Am I dead? Please tell me you can talk to dead people! lol?&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Please tell me you just went on an epic Vegas bender.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18.72px;\">&#8220;<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\">Darling, if we don&#8217;t learn to communicate, I think we&#8217;re going to need a marriage councilor.&#8221;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>True story, I actually used that last one on my current girlfriend, before our first date, when she didn&#8217;t get back to me for two days.<\/p>\n<p>When we met we instantly played out the whole &#8220;let&#8217;s go get married right now&#8221; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/flirting-role-playing\/\">role play\u00a0<\/a>and had kept it as an inside joke, so when she didn\u2019t respond for the first time, I came up with the whole marriage councilor gag (something we had also incorporated into our banter).<\/p>\n<p>She had stood me up on\u00a0<em>two<\/em> dates before, and when she didn&#8217;t respond- the last text I had sent was asking her out for a <strong><em>third<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0time.<\/p>\n<p>So needless to say, it looked like I was pretty dead in the water.<\/p>\n<p>But I sent the &#8220;recovery text&#8221; anyway.<\/p>\n<p>When she responded, she explained that she had taken off on a spontaneous camping trip with some girlfriends (accompanied with pictures from said trip- this is a common occurrence when you live in Vancouver, just a stone&#8217;s throw away from the Rocky Mountains).<\/p>\n<p>After I sent that text, we finally went on our first and have been together since.<\/p>\n<p>So remember, it never hurts to take a chance.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/text-slow-down-interest\/\">If Her Texts Slow Down, Is She Losing Interest<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/girl-is-hot-and-cold\/\">Understanding Her &#8220;Hot&#8221; and &#8220;Cold&#8221; Behavior<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\">AVOID These 5 Mistakes When She &#8220;Pulls Away&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/regain-upper-hand-with-girl\/\">3 Ways to Regain the &#8220;Upper Hand&#8221; with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/getting-dumped\/\">If a Woman Ends Things with You, Say &#8220;THIS&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating\u00a0&gt; Texting &gt; What to Text by Coaching Staff \u2022 Updated: August 30, 2022 See Also Flirty Texts to Send a Girl 15 Texts That Reveal How She Feels 10 Rules for Texting Girls 6 Texts to Send When a Girl Doesn&#8217;t Respond It&#8217;s a terrible feeling. 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