{"id":641,"date":"2022-08-08T14:55:17","date_gmt":"2022-08-08T14:55:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=641"},"modified":"2022-09-08T14:23:52","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T14:23:52","slug":"no-contact-rule","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/no-contact-rule\/","title":{"rendered":"The NO CONTACT Rule Explained (How To Do It CORRECTLY)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating <\/a>&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; No Contact Rule<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Chris Anderson \u2022 Updated: August 08, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/psychology-of-ignoring-a-woman\/\">The Secret Psychology of Ignoring a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/what-say-to-make-her-love-you\/\">99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">#1 Ways to Charm a Girl (and keeps her pursuing you)<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1348\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/no-contact-rule-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"no contact rule\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/no-contact-rule-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/no-contact-rule-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/no-contact-rule-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/no-contact-rule.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>3 Steps to Make &#8220;NO CONTACT&#8221; More Powerful<\/h2>\n<p>When you&#8217;re using the \u201cno-contact\u201d technique to <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/regain-upper-hand-with-girl\/\">re-attract a woman<\/a>, the basic concept is simple: do not communicate with her at all.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li>But what happens if you run into her at work?<\/li>\n<li>What if you see her in your social circle?<\/li>\n<li>What happens if she&#8217;s messaging you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In this article, we\u2019ll go over 3 ways to make \u201cno-contact\u201d more effective.<br \/>\nFor a quick explanation,<strong> the &#8220;no contact rule&#8221;<\/strong> is used when you&#8217;re trying to re-ignite attraction in a girl or get an ex-girlfriend back.<\/p>\n<p>You are stopping all communication with them for a set period of time.<\/p>\n<p>However, there are a few rules to make sure you do &#8220;no contact&#8221; right.\u00a0 And you absolutely must<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\"> avoid the big mistakes men make when a woman &#8220;pulls away&#8221;.<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>&#8220;No Contact&#8221; Rule #1: Fade Into \u201cNo-Contact\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>Let\u2019s say a guy has liked a girl for a while. He confesses his feelings and gets the &#8220;friend zone&#8221; speech.<\/p>\n<p>Or a guy is dating a girl and she becomes less enthusiastic.<\/p>\n<p>If you start \u201cno-contact\u201d right after something bad happens, the girl thinks, <em>&#8220;He must have disappeared because he&#8217;s upset. He&#8217;s probably in his room crying.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So when something bad happens (like a &#8220;friend zone&#8221; speech or the woman pulling away), <strong>wait seven to ten days.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Act like everything&#8217;s normal. If she texts you, reply like you normally would.<\/p>\n<p>But once those seven-to-ten days pass\u2026 BOOM: begin \u201cno-contact.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When we teach our program <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/unlock-the-scrambler-system\/\">Unlock the Scrambler<\/a>, one of the important steps is the \u201cblackout\u201d phase, which is a period of \u201cno-contact.\u201d It\u2019s important in resetting her impression of you.<\/p>\n<p>A lot of times you&#8217;re in this position in the first place because you made mistakes:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li>You came on too strong.<\/li>\n<li>You acted too needy.<\/li>\n<li>You were too much of a nice guy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Why &#8220;No Contact&#8221; Works<\/h2>\n<p>\u201cNo-contact\u201d gives you a chance to change her opinion. It gives you space to get back to a place of higher status in her eyes.<\/p>\n<p>However, if she thinks you\u2019re angry at her, it undercuts the entire process.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll think, &#8220;<em>He&#8217;s not contacting me because he&#8217;s hurt. He\u2019s super into me and he\u2019s upset that I rejected him, so he\u2019s ignoring me.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>If she knows you\u2019re doing the \u201cblackout\u201d as a reaction to her, she still has control over you.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll think, <em>\u201cI\u2019ve got him. I know I have him,\u201d<\/em> because it\u2019s clear that you care too much.<\/p>\n<p>That defeats the entire purpose.<\/p>\n<p>When done correctly, the purpose of \u201cno-contact\u201d is to make her think,<em> \u201cMaybe he\u2019s not this nice, needy guy like I thought.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So don\u2019t start the \u201cno-contact\u201d immediately after a bad moment. The seven-to-ten day period of acting normal is key.<\/p>\n<p>Now she won\u2019t suspect that you\u2019re angry about <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wussy-mistakes\/\">the &#8220;friend zone&#8221;<\/a> speech or because <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-girls-pull-away\/\">she&#8217;s &#8220;pulling away&#8221;<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, she&#8217;ll assume YOU must be the one losing interest<\/p>\n<h3>5 Weird Reasons She Lost Attraction<\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Yn_Vucxdnmo\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/friendshefallsfor.com\/friendsheloves\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Register for The Friend She Falls in Love With Free Class<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>&#8220;No Contact&#8221; Rule #2: Use \u201cPolite Indifference\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>Let\u2019s say you\u2019ve started \u201cno-contact,\u201d but you\u2019re going to see her at a social event.<\/p>\n<p>If you blatantly ignore her while she\u2019s in the same room, that will make you seem mad. You\u2019ll seem like a butt-hurt guy being passive-aggressive by <em>trying<\/em> to ignore her.<\/p>\n<p>If you look like you\u2019re <em>trying <\/em>to do it, it reveals that you care way too much.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing attractive about being butt-hurt.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, when you\u2019re in the same room with her, use \u201cpolite indifference.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not ignoring her, you&#8217;re being polite.<\/p>\n<p>But you&#8217;re being slightly &#8220;different&#8221;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li>You&#8217;re not as excited as you used to be.<\/li>\n<li>You&#8217;re not putting in as much effort.<\/li>\n<li>You&#8217;re ending the conversation first.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>What happens if she contacts you during &#8220;no contact&#8221;?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>In the past, a text from her would have gotten you texting back until 2 in the morning.<\/p>\n<p>If you guys went on a date in the past, you\u2019d try to make it last as long as you could.<\/p>\n<p>Contrast that now by letting her contact you, talk with her just a little, then be the one to end things first.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Get Back to &#8220;Break Even&#8221;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Don\u2019t start \u201cno-contact\u201d right when you\u2019ve been acting needy and seeking her approval. Instead, do a technique that I call <strong>\u201cget back to break-even.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>For example, if a woman was putting in less effort into the interactions and never worked to keep a conversation going, then that\u2019s going to be your attitude now.<\/p>\n<p>If she says, &#8220;<em>Hey, how&#8217;s your day going? What are you up to?&#8221;<\/em> you can answer the question, but you&#8217;re not going to try to keep the conversation going.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t look mad, <strong>you look like a guy who lost interest.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><strong>\u201cNo-Initiation\u201d vs. &#8220;No Contact&#8221;<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Instead of \u201cno-contact,\u201d you could call this version of the technique <strong>&#8220;no-initiation.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t initiate anything with her. When she initiates communication with you, you\u2019re going to put in less effort.<\/p>\n<p>Treat her the way you would treat a woman at work who you have no interest in. You&#8217;re not mean to her. You&#8217;re going to talk to her when she asks, &#8220;How&#8217;s it going?\u201d Then you&#8217;re going to put out the vibe that you want to go talk to someone else, and you\u2019re going to say, \u201cGotta go.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Let her think, \u201cOh, he&#8217;s not as into me as he used to be.&#8221;<\/p>\n<h2>No Contact Rule #3: Confusion is More Powerful<\/h2>\n<p>Confusion is a huge factor when it comes to attraction.<\/p>\n<p>The more she can\u2019t figure you out, <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-girl-think-about-you\/\">the more she thinks about you<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>And the more she thinks about you, the more prone she is to become infatuated.<\/p>\n<p>Remember the TV show Lost? The whole concept was built about the audience wondering what was happening. \u201cIs this a dream? Are they time traveling? Does the island make your fears come true?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If the answers had all been known from the beginning, the show wouldn\u2019t have been able to pull in an audience. It was the constant wondering that made the show a hit.<\/p>\n<p>Similarly, one of your goals with \u201cno-contact\u201d is to create mysteries for a woman to wonder about.<\/p>\n<h3>2 Mysterious to Create with &#8220;No Contact&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p>If you disappear completely, you create a mystery where she can wonder, \u201cWhere did he go? What\u2019s he doing?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But you can create an even more confusing mystery if you\u2019re still around but she doesn\u2019t understand why you\u2019re acting differently.<\/p>\n<p>Some women know that guys will use \u201cno-contact\u201d after a breakup, so this will be more effective. Plus, since she\u2019s still seeing you, it gives you a platform to display non-needy behaviors.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Example of &#8220;No Contact&#8221; When She Calls<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Let\u2019s say your ex calls you.<\/p>\n<p>The old way of doing it is to simply not answer the phone.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, answer and say, <em>&#8220;Hey, what&#8217;s up?&#8221;<\/em> like you normally would&#8217;ve done.<\/p>\n<p>Talk to her for about a minute. Then say, <em>&#8220;Hey, listen, I was actually just in the middle of something. Can I call you back in like five minutes?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Then don&#8217;t call her back.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>That creates an experience of emotions for her.<\/p>\n<p>First, she feels relief that things seem to be back to normal.<\/p>\n<p>Then an hour goes by and she realizes,<em> &#8220;Oh, he hasn&#8217;t called back yet.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll be looking at her phone as the hours pass, thinking, <em>\u201cHe never called. What\u2019s going on?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The key is you&#8217;re not doing anything mean. She broke up with you, so you guys aren&#8217;t an item. There\u2019s no contract that says you have to call her back.<\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/stop-girl-from-getting-bored\/\">4 Ways to Stop a Girl from Getting Bored<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">The #1 Way to Have Power Over a Woman<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-a-girl-miss-you\/\">5 Ways to Make a Girl Miss You<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Using the \u201cFriend zone\u201d to Your Advantage<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>When a women rejects you but says, &#8220;I still want to be friends with you,&#8221; many guys make the mistake of saying, \u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That throws away one of the most important factors in getting a woman back: access.<\/p>\n<p>Being in the &#8220;friend zone&#8221; gives you access to her. Then you can make the transition to showing her more attractive behaviors.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t know how to use the &#8220;friend zone&#8221; to transition to sexuality, then Chris Anderson and I have a class that you should take.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>The Friend She Falls in Love With<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>This is a completely free class.<\/p>\n<p>First, we help you understand why you ended up in the &#8220;friend zone&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>A lot of times it&#8217;s that you didn&#8217;t capitalize on things when she liked you.<\/p>\n<p>Other times it\u2019s that you showed too much interest.<\/p>\n<p>Then Chris Anderson is going to walk you through his <strong>three steps<\/strong> to transition from being her friend to being the friend she falls in love with.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a technique for subtly building attraction and reversing your mistakes.<\/p>\n<p>It works on a female friend, an ex-girlfriend, a girl at work, or any similar situation.<\/p>\n<p>Once you learn this technique, it becomes really fun to have girls around as friends while knowing that you can take it to the relationship level if you want to.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/friendshefallsfor.com\/friendsheloves\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Register for the Friend She Falls in Love With<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating &gt; Attraction &gt; No Contact Rule by Chris Anderson \u2022 Updated: August 08, 2022 See Also The Secret Psychology of Ignoring a Girl 99% of Girls Chase You When You Say \u201cTHIS\u201d #1 Ways to Charm a Girl (and keeps her pursuing you) 3 Steps to Make &#8220;NO CONTACT&#8221; More Powerful When you&#8217;re using [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-641","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/641","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=641"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/641\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1637,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/641\/revisions\/1637"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=641"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}