{"id":818,"date":"2022-08-05T19:39:00","date_gmt":"2022-08-05T19:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/?page_id=818"},"modified":"2022-09-08T14:07:58","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T14:07:58","slug":"make-more-attracted","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/make-more-attracted\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Project a &#8220;Masculine Vibe&#8221; That Makes Her More Attracted"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/\">Dating<\/a>&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/attract-women\/\">Attraction<\/a> &gt; Display Masculinity<\/small><br \/>\n<small>by Bobby Rio \u2022 <\/small><small>Updated: August 11, 2022<\/small><\/p>\n<p><strong><small>See Also<\/small><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/create-chemistry-with-woman\/\">#1 Way to Create Chemistry with a Girl<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">#1 Way to Have &#8220;Power&#8221; Over Women<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">&#8220;THIS&#8221; Ignites the Chase in Her<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1351\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/make-girl-want-you-more-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"make a girl want you more\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/make-girl-want-you-more-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/make-girl-want-you-more-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/make-girl-want-you-more-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/make-girl-want-you-more.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Five_Ways_to_Project_A_Masculine_Vibe_With_Women\">Five Ways to Project A Masculine Vibe With Women<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Early on with a woman that you&#8217;re meeting or starting to date, a question goes through her mind:<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>&#8220;Am I leading him or is he leading me?&#8221;<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Women are attracted to men who are strong, dominant, and display masculinity.<\/p>\n<p>In this article, we\u2019re going to discuss how to project that dominant masculine vibe.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Common_Confusion_About_Masculinity\"><strong>Common Confusion About Masculinity<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A lot of people get confused about <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/masculine-qualities\/\">what masculinity is<\/a>. They picture an alpha bodybuilder biker and think masculinity equals looking like that.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve coached a lot of masculine-looking guys. Guys who were in great shape and covered in tattoos. Yet when they&#8217;re around women, they crumble like little boys.<\/p>\n<p>Being masculine is not about looking masculine. It&#8217;s about the attitude you convey. It&#8217;s about <a href=\"https:\/\/selfesteemblueprint.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">your &#8220;inner game&#8221;<\/a> that you have around women.<\/p>\n<div id=\"toc_container\" class=\"no_bullets\"><p class=\"toc_title\">Contents<\/p><ul class=\"toc_list\"><li><a href=\"#Five_Ways_to_Project_A_Masculine_Vibe_With_Women\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">1<\/span> Five Ways to Project A Masculine Vibe With Women<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#Common_Confusion_About_Masculinity\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">1.1<\/span> Common Confusion About Masculinity<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#Masculine_Trait_1_Willingness_To_Walk_Away\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">2<\/span> Masculine Trait #1:\u00a0 Willingness To Walk Away.<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#Withholding_Approval\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">2.1<\/span> Withholding Approval<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Dealing_With_Flakes\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">2.2<\/span> Dealing With Flakes<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Related_5_Traits_That_Make_Her_Chase_You\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">2.3<\/span> Related: 5 Traits That Make Her Chase You<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#Masculine_Trait_2_Demonstrate_Boundaries\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">3<\/span> Masculine Trait #2:\u00a0 Demonstrate Boundaries.<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#Example_of_Personal_Boundaries\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">3.1<\/span> Example of Personal Boundaries<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#Another_Example_of_Personal_Boundaries\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">4<\/span> Another Example of Personal Boundaries<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#The_Wake-Up_Example\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">4.1<\/span> The Wake-Up Example<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Women_8220Test8221_Your_Boundaries\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">4.2<\/span> Women &#8220;Test&#8221; Your Boundaries<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#Masculine_Trait_2_Be_Willing_To_Say_No\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">5<\/span> Masculine Trait #2: Be Willing To Say \u201cNo\u201d<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#Saying_8220No8221_to_Female_Friends\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">5.1<\/span> Saying &#8220;No&#8221; to Female Friends<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Saying_8220no8221_Unreasonable_Favors\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">5.2<\/span> Saying &#8220;no&#8221; Unreasonable Favors<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#The_8220Guy_Friend8221_Test\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">5.3<\/span> The &#8220;Guy Friend&#8221; Test<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#Masculine_Trait_4_Approval_Honesty\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">6<\/span> Masculine Trait #4: Approval Honesty<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Masculine_Trait_5_Dont_Qualify_Yourself\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">7<\/span> Masculine Trait #5: Don\u2019t Qualify Yourself<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#Not_A_Power_Trip\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">7.1<\/span> Not A Power Trip<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Disqualify_Yourself\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">7.2<\/span> Disqualify Yourself<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"#The_Masculine_Vibe_is_the_Secret_to_8220Chemistry8221\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">8<\/span> The Masculine Vibe is the Secret to &#8220;Chemistry&#8221;<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Recap_of_5_Ways_to_Create_a_8220Masculine_Vibe8221\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">9<\/span> Recap of 5 Ways to Create a &#8220;Masculine Vibe&#8221;<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#The_Next_Step\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_2\">9.1<\/span> The Next Step<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-820 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM-1024x609.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"933\" height=\"555\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM-1024x609.png 1024w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM-300x179.png 300w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM-768x457.png 768w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM-1536x914.png 1536w, https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/Screen-Shot-2022-07-25-at-12.41.36-PM.png 1976w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The Tiger, right?<\/p>\n<p>If you look at a kitten and a tiger, why does the tiger demand more respect?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Because the tiger is harder to tame.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When it comes to women, they don&#8217;t want a guy to be the kitten that they can control very easily.<\/p>\n<p>They want a man to be the tiger that takes a long time to tame.<\/p>\n<p>So, how do you become that tiger? By displaying these five masculine traits.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Masculine_Trait_1_Willingness_To_Walk_Away\"><strong>Masculine Trait #1:\u00a0 Willingness To Walk Away.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>This is something that my friends and I figured out years ago in college with a <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/increase-her-attraction\/\">move that we called \u201cthe walkaway.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>If there was a girl we were interested in at a party, the chance of getting her attracted was a hundred times more powerful if we talked to her a little bit, then walked away from her.<\/p>\n<p>Because that&#8217;s the opposite of what most guys do.<\/p>\n<p>Most guys start having a conversation, realize it&#8217;s going well, and try to stay in that conversation the whole night.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re scared that if they walk away, somebody else is going to take her.<\/p>\n<p>What we found is that if you&#8217;re having a good conversation, then you say something like, \u201cI&#8217;m going to go catch up with some of my friends,\u201d then later you re-engage with her, her buying temperature at that point is spiked because you&#8217;ve demonstrated that you&#8217;re not going to cling to her.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re that tiger that\u2019s harder to tame.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Withholding_Approval\"><strong>Withholding Approval<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>One way to show willingness to walk away is by withholding approval.<\/p>\n<p>When a lot of guys are with an attractive woman, they&#8217;re afraid to demonstrate disapproval.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re afraid to demonstrate boredom with her or that they&#8217;re let down in something she says.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s say she\u2019s telling a story that she won $500 by cheating in a poker tournament at a big family reunion. This would mean that the money she won was money that her own cousins and uncles had put into the pot.<\/p>\n<p>For the sake of this example, let\u2019s say that the guy hearing the story finds that to be behavior that\u2019s beneath his standards. If he\u2019s a nice guy, he\u2019s going to ignore that and say, \u201cOh, that\u2019s so cool.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But if he\u2019s a masculine man, he\u2019s going to display his disapproval.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s going to say, <em>\u201cWoah, that was kind of scummy,\u201d<\/em> or challenge her with a question like, <em>\u201cDo you only steal from your family in games, or is this an ongoing thing?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>These statements show her that you&#8217;re not willing to tolerate that kind of behavior.<\/p>\n<p>By <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/handling-rude-behavior\/\">showing her that you have standards<\/a>, you communicate that you&#8217;re willing to walk away.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Dealing_With_Flakes\"><strong>Dealing With Flakes<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Another chance to demonstrate willingness to walk away is when a woman cancels plans.<\/p>\n<p>This also applies when a woman says \u201cmaybe\u201d and waits til the last minute to confirm plans.<\/p>\n<p>Say to her, \u201cListen, you know what? Flakiness is a real turn off to me. It was cool hanging out with you and all, but I don&#8217;t know if this is going to work out.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then walk away.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t threaten to walk away. Actually walk away.<\/p>\n<p>One of two things is going to happen:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>She&#8217;s going to think, \u201cGood, I didn&#8217;t like that guy\u201d \u2013 and in that case, you save yourself from wasting more time with her.<\/li>\n<li>She\u2019s going to think, \u201cWow, this guy is not the pushover who\u2019s going to take crap like the other guys,\u201d and she\u2019s going to chase you.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3><span id=\"Related_5_Traits_That_Make_Her_Chase_You\">Related: 5 Traits That Make Her Chase You<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LLyckIdC0b8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/technique\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Discover &#8220;The Scrambler&#8221; Technique Now<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span id=\"Masculine_Trait_2_Demonstrate_Boundaries\"><strong>Masculine Trait #2:\u00a0 Demonstrate Boundaries.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Boundaries are internal and external rules that you.<\/p>\n<p>An example of a woman having a boundary is that she doesn\u2019t have sex on a first date.<\/p>\n<p>When a woman says that, there\u2019s a part of you that wants her more.<\/p>\n<p>As men, we want to have similar types of boundaries. This could be in our dealings with her, or it could be in our dealings with life that affect her.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Example_of_Personal_Boundaries\"><strong>Example of Personal Boundaries<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>I keep my phone on \u201cdo not disturb\u201d mode all day because I&#8217;m writing and creating videos. It throws me off when I start getting texts and calls, and I risk losing focus.<\/p>\n<p>Now, what would a nice guy do in my situation if he started talking to a beautiful woman?<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019d be scared that if he keeps his phone on \u201cdo not disturb,\u201d he&#8217;s going to miss her texts and she&#8217;s not going to want him as much. He\u2019ll put her number in his phone as a contact that is allowed to go through.<\/p>\n<p>He would be shifting his boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not attractive. It makes him a ready-to-tame kitten, not a tiger.<\/p>\n<p>The masculine thing to do is say to her, <em>\u201cDuring the day, I keep my phone on \u2018do not disturb.\u2019 So, if I don&#8217;t reply to your text, usually I check it at lunchtime and I&#8217;ll get back to you. Don&#8217;t feel like I&#8217;m ignoring you during the day. I just don&#8217;t reply to anybody.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Another_Example_of_Personal_Boundaries\"><strong>Another Example of Personal Boundaries<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>I had a friend named Christian.<\/p>\n<p>He didn\u2019t like people walking around his house with shoes on. He used to tell everyone to take their shoes off at the door.<\/p>\n<p>He used to be nervous when a woman was coming over. He was scared to tell her to take her shoes off. He was afraid that it would make him seem mean.<\/p>\n<p>He would meekly think, \u201cEh, I&#8217;ll let her do it.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s more kitten behavior.<\/p>\n<p>When he started actually telling women to take their shoes off at the door, he noticed that women were more attracted to him.<\/p>\n<p>They respected his boundaries.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"The_Wake-Up_Example\"><strong>The Wake-Up Example<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Let\u2019s say you wake up at five o&#8217;clock in the morning every day to work out.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re on a date, tell her, \u201cI got to get up early tomorrow. I&#8217;m going to call it a night.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Instead of stretching it out and spending as much time with her as possible, she\u2019ll respect you more for sticking to your boundaries.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Women Do It, Too<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>One of the most attractive types of women to deal with are single moms because they have these boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>They have to get home to their child. They have rules that they have to follow, which makes guys chase them.<\/p>\n<p>The guy feels that he\u2019s never the center of her attention, so he has a goal to chase after.<\/p>\n<p>Most women don&#8217;t bend their boundaries for a new guy they&#8217;re meeting and it makes them more attractive.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Women_8220Test8221_Your_Boundaries\"><strong>Women &#8220;Test&#8221; Your Boundaries<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Women will always try to test your boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>I have friends that play golf every Sunday. When they start dating a woman, they say, \u201cListen, Sundays are golf day with the friends.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Here comes the test. A woman will say, \u201cThis Sunday, my cousin&#8217;s having a party and you can come with me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She wants to see if you\u2019re willing to give up golf day with your friends to go to her cousin&#8217;s party?<\/p>\n<p>A lot of guys think that by giving up golf day for her, you&#8217;re showing her that you like her. This should make her happy, right?<\/p>\n<p>Well, it&#8217;s counterintuitive. She may briefly be happy.<\/p>\n<p>But then she\u2019ll think, \u201cI tamed this guy easier than I thought.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Remember, she wants a tiger that\u2019s hard to tame.<\/p>\n<p><small><strong>See Also<\/strong><\/small><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-women-test-men\/\">Why Women &#8220;Test&#8221; Men<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/girl-tests-formula\/\">Formula for Passing Women&#8217;s &#8220;Tests&#8221;<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<li><small><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/handling-rude-behavior\/\">Dealing with Crappy Behavior<\/a><\/small><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span id=\"Masculine_Trait_2_Be_Willing_To_Say_No\"><strong>Masculine Trait #2: Be Willing To Say \u201cNo\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>The most attractive word that you can say to a woman is \u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I used to work at a restaurant that hired a lot of beautiful young waitresses. The schedule worked like it did at most restaurants.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s say I was scheduled to work Friday night, but I wanted to take the night off. I can go to my coworkers and say, \u201cHey, can you work Friday night for me?\u201d Sometimes they say \u201cyes,\u201d sometimes \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>There was this one waiter who worked there, Frank.<\/p>\n<p>Girls knew that Frank couldn\u2019t say \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>They knew that if they went up to him and they flirted with him a little bit and asked, \u201cHey, I have to work New Year&#8217;s Eve, can you work New Year&#8217;s Eve for me?\u201d Frank would be like, \u201cOh, New Year&#8217;s Eve, I have plans.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then she&#8217;d be like, \u201cOh please,\u201d and she&#8217;d touch his leg.<\/p>\n<p>The next thing you&#8217;d know, he&#8217;d be canceling his own New Years plans and signing up to work for her.<\/p>\n<p>He couldn&#8217;t say \u201cno.\u201d He thought he was gaining points with her, but in reality, he wasn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, a girl would come up to me and be like, \u201cHey, Bobby, can you work New Year&#8217;s Eve?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d be like, \u201cGet the hell out of here if you think I&#8217;m working New Year&#8217;s Eve for you.\u201d Even though I was saying \u201cno,\u201d they actually respected me a lot more.<strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Saying_8220No8221_to_Female_Friends\"><strong>Saying &#8220;No&#8221; to Female Friends<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Female friends will do this from time to time, too.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve got a female friend who always knew she had power over you\u2026 and then you start dating someone else\u2026 your female friend will become more flirtatious towards you.<\/p>\n<p>She&#8217;ll try to get you to not hang out with that new girl.<\/p>\n<p>She&#8217;ll say, \u201cWhy don&#8217;t we go somewhere tonight?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re in love with that female friend and you&#8217;re only, so-so about the new girl, you\u2019ll think, \u201cI got to jump on this opportunity,\u201d and you\u2019ll give up the new girl.<\/p>\n<p>If you do that, the female friend will lose interest in you again, because it was too easy to get what she wanted.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s way more powerful to say \u201cNo, I have plans tonight, but maybe another day.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>By saying \u201cNo,\u201d you&#8217;re showing that you are comfortable in your masculinity and a girl batting her eyes is not going to change your mind.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Saying_8220no8221_Unreasonable_Favors\"><strong>Saying &#8220;no&#8221; Unreasonable Favors<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A willingness to say \u201cno\u201d comes into play when you\u2019re asked to do a favor.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you meet a new girl at a bar and she says,<em> \u201cI have to go do something. Can you hold my bag for a second?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And she hands you the bag and now 20 minutes later, you&#8217;re holding her bag like an idiot.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, tell her, \u201cNo, I&#8217;m not going to hold your bag. I would love to continue talking to you when you get back.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She&#8217;s going to respect you more.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"The_8220Guy_Friend8221_Test\"><strong>The &#8220;Guy Friend&#8221; Test<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A way to determine when to say \u201cno\u201d to a favor is to ask yourself: would you do it for your guy friends?<\/p>\n<p>If your male friend met up with you at a bar and said, \u201cHey buddy, can you hold my umbrella all night?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;d be like, \u201cNot happening, dude.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But if a pretty girl asks you and you hold her umbrella all night, then you\u2019re a kitten who was tamed too easily.<\/p>\n<p>You want to be able to say \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Masculine_Trait_4_Approval_Honesty\"><strong>Masculine Trait #4: Approval Honesty<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Never use approval as a tactic to gain rapport.<\/p>\n<p>What do I mean by that?<\/p>\n<p>In a conversation when things are going well, you start giving approval, saying things like \u201cThat&#8217;s so cool,\u201d and \u201cOh, totally.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s fine in a conversation with a friend.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t do it on a date with a new woman.<\/p>\n<p>Throwing so much instant approval at her is going to make you seem too easy to tame.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of immediately saying, <em>\u201cThat&#8217;s so cool how you do that,\u201d<\/em> sit back and be the judge.<\/p>\n<p>Say things like, <em>\u201cTell me more about that,\u201d<\/em> while withholding your opinion.<\/p>\n<p>Relax and <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/romantic-tension-women\/\">let her work to impress you<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It takes a lot of time and energy to tame a tiger. The more work she has to put in to earn your approval, the more she respects you as a man.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Masculine_Trait_5_Dont_Qualify_Yourself\"><strong>Masculine Trait #5: Don\u2019t Qualify Yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>We just talked about making a woman qualify herself to you, now let\u2019s look at the other side of that.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t want to be qualifying yourself to her.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been in conversations where a girl is talking about her ex-boyfriend, and she&#8217;ll say something like, <em>&#8220;My ex-boyfriend was so annoying. He never wanted to spend Sundays with me because he was watching football.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And there&#8217;s always some nice guy that jumps in and says, <em>\u201cI would never be with somebody like that. I never watch football. My ex-girlfriend used to only want to watch this one soap opera, and it was so annoying.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>That guy will be trying to qualify himself by essentially saying, &#8220;I&#8217;m not like your ex-boyfriend.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you do that, it lowers your value in the woman&#8217;s eyes.<\/p>\n<p>We qualify ourselves in a lot of ways, including:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Agreeing with things she says.<\/li>\n<li>Trying to demonstrate the traits we think are going to impress her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If she loves to travel, a <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/why-nice-guys-fail\/\">&#8220;nice guy&#8221;<\/a> will say, <em>&#8220;Oh cool. I love to travel, too. I designed my schedule at work so that I can travel.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Why are you putting that into the conversation? Because you think it&#8217;s qualifying you, especially if you know she likes to travel.<\/p>\n<p>Guys do this all the time. We listen to what she&#8217;s saying, and then we try to qualify ourselves to fit into her expectations.<\/p>\n<p>So do the reverse.<\/p>\n<p>What a masculine guy does is he lets <em>her<\/em> fit into <em>his<\/em> expectations and he uses something called <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/older-guy-flirting\/\">Non-Judgement Qualification<\/a> to let her win him over.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Not_A_Power_Trip\"><strong>Not A Power Trip<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Letting her qualify herself to you is not about <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/power-over-women\/\">being more powerful than her<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s about being firm in what you actually like.<\/p>\n<p>I like women that are very firm in what they like. I don&#8217;t want a woman that tries to impress me by pretending to like things she doesn&#8217;t like.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t want a woman who&#8217;s willing to cancel plans with her friends to hang out with me.<\/p>\n<p>I want a woman who has boundaries. I want a woman who&#8217;s willing to say \u201cno\u201d to me.<\/p>\n<p>I want a woman who is willing to walk away.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m not going to respect a woman if I can treat her like crap and she sticks around.<\/p>\n<p>This is not about dominating a woman.<\/p>\n<p>This is about your own internal way of treating yourself as being somebody that she should respect as much as you respect her.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Disqualify_Yourself\"><strong>Disqualify Yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>One of the tactics I tell guys to do is disqualify yourself.<\/p>\n<p>If a woman is saying something like, <em>&#8220;Oh man, I can&#8217;t date guys that are messy,&#8221;<\/em> and you\u2019re a messy person, say, <em>\u201cWell then you got to cross me off that list, because I&#8217;m a slob.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Maybe she talks about selfish people, Tell her, &#8220;I&#8217;ll admit I&#8217;m the most selfish person in the world.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Maybe she\u2019s an extreme feminist. If that\u2019s not the way you really think, be ready to tell her, <em>&#8220;Oh man, I&#8217;m totally old school. I want a wife who, when I come home, she&#8217;s got dinner on the table and massages my feet.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re disqualifying yourself if she&#8217;s saying that&#8217;s not the life she wants.<\/p>\n<p>The &#8220;nice guy&#8221; tends to think, &#8220;Oh no, I&#8217;m disqualifying myself. I&#8217;m taking myself out of the game.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But really, you&#8217;ve just become way more interesting to the woman, because you&#8217;re not qualifying yourself.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re not afraid to lose her approval.<\/p>\n<p>Plus you\u2019re going to be combining that with all the other masculine traits.<\/p>\n<p><strong>See Also<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/regain-upper-hand-with-girl\/\">3 Ways to Regain the &#8220;Upper Hand&#8221; with a Girl<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/psychology-of-ignoring-a-woman\/\">The Secret Psychology of Ignoring a Girl<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/get-younger-womans-attention\/\">5 Ways to Get a Younger Woman&#8217;s Attention<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span id=\"The_Masculine_Vibe_is_the_Secret_to_8220Chemistry8221\">The Masculine Vibe is the Secret to &#8220;Chemistry&#8221;<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7WIVrpsM5s8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Take the 10-Question Quiz<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span id=\"Recap_of_5_Ways_to_Create_a_8220Masculine_Vibe8221\"><strong>Recap of 5 Ways to Create a &#8220;Masculine Vibe&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>To project masculinity, you\u2019ll want to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Be willing to walk away<\/li>\n<li>Demonstrate boundaries<\/li>\n<li>Be willing to say \u201cno\u201d<\/li>\n<li>Display approval honesty<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t qualify yourself<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>That\u2019s really what being masculine is all about.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"The_Next_Step\"><strong>The Next Step<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>To help you determine, &#8220;Am I too much of a nice guy? Am I being masculine enough?&#8221; I created<a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\"> a multiple-choice quiz<\/a> that you can take.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s 10 questions long, and it walks you through common situations where you&#8217;re with a woman or thinking about a woman. It asks you to be honest and answer: how would you react?<\/p>\n<p>It gives you a score at the end and lets you know where you&#8217;re doing good and where you might be making these nice guy mistakes that are scaring women away. It will tell you where you have room for improvement.<\/p>\n<p>Take the quiz by clicking the link below.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/quiz\/4\/\"><strong>Take the 10-question &#8220;Attraction Quiz&#8221;<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating&gt; Attraction &gt; Display Masculinity by Bobby Rio \u2022 Updated: August 11, 2022 See Also #1 Way to Create Chemistry with a Girl #1 Way to Have &#8220;Power&#8221; Over Women &#8220;THIS&#8221; Ignites the Chase in Her Five Ways to Project A Masculine Vibe With Women Early on with a woman that you&#8217;re meeting or starting [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-posts.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-818","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/818","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=818"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/818\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1352,"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/818\/revisions\/1352"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbyriotraining.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=818"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}