Dating >Attraction > Make a Girl Obsessed with You
by Bobby Rio • Updated: February 19, 2024
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5 Tricks to Make a Girl Obsessed with Chasing You…
And I’m going to preface this by saying these might be a little gamey, and it might feel a little manipulative.
But if you want to make a girl obsessed with you, this is what works.
And let’s be honest, when we’re trying to attract someone, there’s always an element of manipulation, right?
We don’t like to think of it like that, but really, when a woman wears high heels to be 2 inches taller, or a pushup bra, even makeup, that’s a form of manipulation, right?
“Nice guys” are the KINGS of trying to manipulate women into liking them…
If you’re buying her a gift or taking her to this really fancy restaurant, or doing her some favor…
It’s a form of manipulation too, you’re doing it because you think it will get her more attracted or interested in you.
So that said, if you’re gonna be gamey, if you’re going to do things to manipulate a woman into being attracted to you…
You should at least do things that actually work.
Here they are.
Obsession Trick #1: Validate with Attention, NOT Compliments
Okay. Number one, listen to what she’s saying and be curious and validate what she’s saying.
But this is important.
Do not compliment her.
Like respond and ask her questions about it, even challenge her a bit.
Like “that’s interesting, how did you figure that out”
She should be validated by the curiosity you have about what she’s saying, or the attention you’re giving her when she’s telling you something.
But the minute you start showering her with compliments, she STOPS WANTING your validation or approval.
It’s a weird paradox.
She doesn’t want some approval seeking “nice guy” who can’t stop telling her how awesome she is.
But here’s the thing…
Very few guys are genuinely curious about what she’s saying, very few guys really listen, or ask her to expand on something.
Most guys just use what she’s saying as a reason to compliment her.
When you do the opposite, you come off more like you’re screening her a bit, qualifying her, trying to see if she’s interesting enough for you.
When you actually listen, you’re curious, but you don’t compliment her, it triggers something in her brain to start working harder for your validation.
And that’s the guy she’s more likely to chase and obsess over.
Obsession Trick #2: Let Her Do Things For You
Okay. Number two, let her do things for you.
But don’t be too impressed by it.
It’s a standard. Let her know that.
If she mentions that she bakes delicious brownies, say “Bring me some next time I need to see if they’re as good as you say they are”
And when she brings them, don’t act like its the nicest thing a girl has ever done for you.
Be nonchalant about it, like you’re used to being treated like a king.
If you act like “oh my god you’re so great”
It comes across like you’re not used to being treated so good..
Which lowers your value in her eyes.
Let her see this what you expect, that you have standards.
There’s also another important element to this…
There is something called: effort justification.
Where the more effort she finds herself putting into the relationship, the more value she places on you.
Let me be clear.
Do NOT take advantage of her, don’t be one of the scummy guys handing her your laundry, and a list of things you need done.
This is NOT about using girls, its about letting her get pleasure out of doing things for you, and not making a big deal about it.
I’m talking little things…
Like “I need to pick out a birthday present for my niece, and I have NO CLUE what kind of things little girls like.
Can you come to the store and help me pick her something out?”
Ok…
Obsession Trick #3: Make Her See You as the Prize
Number three, she needs to feel like you’re the prize, not her.
Something I always tell clients, if you put her up on a pedestal and you’re treating her like she’s the prize..
Something clicks in her brain where she’s like, I’m the prize here, I don’t have to try so hard.
And once she stops trying so hard, her attraction toward you begins to plummet.
It’s human nature, we all want to feel like we’re winning the prize, right?
If she realizes she’s THE PRIZE, and you feel lucky to have her..
Then her perception of how attractive you are diminishes.
There’s a lot of ways to do this, and I have an entire video on being the prize, its on my channel…
But here’s a simple thing that you can start with.
Stop explaining yourself.
When we talk to someone who we feel is higher status than us, like your boss for instance…
We have the habit of explaining ourselves.
We feel a bit insecure, and we want their approval, so we provide more information than is needed.
A simple example is if she asks you to hang out and you already have plans…
Instead of being like , “oh sorry i really want to, but my brother invited me to this band, I don’t even really want to see them, but I told him I’d go”
Instead just say “Hey, sorry, can’t make it tonight”
You don’t need a long explanation as to why.
In fact, let her wonder, it adds to the mystery.
Which for women, is part of what she chases, the wondering what you’re thinking, where she stands with you.
If you tell her everything you’re thinking, she has less to analyze and obsess over in her mind.
The next one kind of ties into this…
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Obsession Trick #4: Be Less Available.
Don’t be there all the time, don’t answer her all the time, don’t be available all the time.
And this is super important.
If you ask to her to hang out Friday, and she’s like “Can I let you know later in the week”
Immediately say “NO”
And take the offer off the table.
Be like “If you’re not sure about Friday, we’ll plan another night”
You don’t want to be the guy who has nothing else going on that he can wait till Friday morning to find out whether or not she can hang out later.
Now this is the hard part.
If she randomly hits you up on Friday afternoon asking if you’re free tonight, you’ve gotta say NO.
I mean not EVERY TIME.
But if she’s the one with the busier schedule, and she’s usually saying no to you…
You can’t be the guy who’s sitting around waiting for her.
Because if she sees that you either have NO PLANS or you’re willing to break your plans for her…
It devalues you in her eyes.
On the other hand, when you’re unavailable or hard to get out…
You are literally the opposite of clingy.
And she begins to put A LOT of value on the time she gets to spend with you.
Obsession Trick #5: Be Willing to Lose Her
And number five, you need to be okay losing her.
Like, if she’s doing something wrong by you, or not fitting the criteria of what you need in a relationship, not respecting your time…
Or she’s too flakey…
Or when you hang out with her, she’s glued to her phone.
Be willing to walk away,
You don’t have to verbally tell her, but she should be able to pick up on it.
Because if she doesn’t think you’re willing to lose her, she’ll never respect you anyway.
She has to feel like she has to put work into the relationship too.
I have my priorities and boundaries, and you cannot cross them, or else you’re gone.
She has to choose you, and to choose to be in that relationship.
So you have to be okay walking away from her at any point..
Now, here’s the thing with all five of these…
They are counter-intuitive, and they don’t come naturally to most of us..
They even feel a bit wrong…
But you have to understand that everything comes down to positioning.
How something is positioned.
And humans are conditioned to want things that are positioned as being VALUABLE.
The older you get the more important this is…
I work with a lot of older guys, and when you’re trying to attract a younger woman, its absolutely essential that you position yourself as the prize.
You can be the greatest guy in the world, you can even be physically her type, share a lot in common…
But if put a low price tag on yourself, she’ll eventually lose interest.
What are some more ways to do this?
Free Class: 3 Steps to Status, Value, and Power
I’ve got a free class I hold a couple times a week, called 3 Steps to Status Value and Power…
Where I walk you through the process of increasing the value women place on you..
Because here’s the thing..
Everything about you can stay exactly the same…
You can look the same…
Have the same job…
Even be a lot older then her…
But you can change her perception of you, how much value she perceives you to have, by certain tweaks to your attitude and behavior.
If you’ve ever met a guy, who really doesn’t have a lot of concrete value, maybe he’s average looking, average income, even average at talking…
Yet girls seem to chase him, seem to obsess over him.
Its because he’s doing things that cause women to perceive him as having higher value, things like we discussed in this video..
And things I go A LOT DEEPER INTO, with more techniques and examples in my free class:
3 Steps to Status, Value, and Power…
You can register at the link above, its free, and there are a couple of sessions to choose from.
