Dating> Attraction > Sexual Tension
by Chris “60” Anderson
Updated: June 17, 2022
See Also:
- Escalating the “Vibe” with a Woman
- 99.9% of Women Chase You When You Say “THIS”
- 2 “Wussy” Mistakes That Keep You Stuck in Friend Zone
Why “Sexual Tension” is so Important
I talk a lot about “tension” being the key to attracting women, but really what is “sexual tension“?
Is it like that show Friends where Ross and Rachel secretly like each other, but never hookup
Oh hell NO man.
I’m talking about SEXUAL TENSION as in SEX
Real sexual tension is when you want to sleep with a woman so bad that she KNOWS it(but without having to tell her.)
When you’re so turned on she can actually FEEL your “sexual desire.”
And as that tension grows she gets more and more aroused, until she absolutely must have you!
Now once you get a girl to this point all you have to do is avoid the 3 big “screwups” (failing her tests, being needy and waiting too long to make a move) and you can pretty much guarantee you end up in bed with her tonight.
Sound too easy?
Your BIGGEST problem with women is THIS (don’t hate me)
Well, there’s still one deadly mistake that holds guys back and cripples their chances of ever seeing her naked.
And it’s probably going to come as a TOTAL SHOCK
You ready for this?
Your biggest problem with women is that you don’t really want to sleep with them!
Well, I mean you do, but it’s not your first goal.
Let me explain?
You see, as guys we have two core needs. The need for sex and the need for affection.
And these 2 needs are constantly battling each other to be at the forefront of our minds.
For example, have you ever checked out a girl from a distance and started imaging what she might look like naked. You may have even turned to your buddy and proclaimed “I would bang her so hard bro.”
Yeah, from 50 feet away you were operating from your desire for sex.
But what happens when you actually go talk to her? All of a sudden your talking about puppy dogs and ice cream. You avoid her eyes, stand too far away and make that I’m just happy to be talking to you face.
(and you don’t dare sneak a peek at her “body” because you’re scared to get caught checking her out)
Yep, you are now operating from your NEED for affection.
And the worst part is she can actually feel that neediness. (this is a HUGE turnoff for women when done too early in a relationship)
Needing Her Affection Decreases the Sexual Tension
Look there’s nothing wrong with wanting female affection. (that’s what’s so awesome about girls) but if you start acting like you really just need a hug before you’ve even kissed her, it’s not going to go well
Okay, nod your head if you’ve ever had this happen?
It’s late, you realize it’s just you at your place, and you start to get in the mood. You might surf internet porn or if your “old school” you pop a tape into your VCR.
Notice how when we’re relaxed and have no worries we automatically divert back to Need #1 which is our desire for sex.
Nice!
But what happens when you go out to a social gathering like a party, bar or club? And you start to notice all of the better looking guys and groups of unimpressed
girls checking their phones.
Yep, you start to feel self-conscious.
All of a sudden you’re trying to impress people you shouldn’t care less about.
You try to be funny, interesting and cool, hoping to make women like you.
(ever notice how most of these silly pickup artist tactics all seem geared to make women like you, instead of making them HORNY for you)
Bottom line, your need for VALIDATION has taken over your brain again. Sex is no longer your main goal.
And let’s face it, your local bar is not the most “boner friendly” environment.
So when you go out to meet women (and especially when you’re talking to one), you can bet your need for validation and affection is going to win out over your need for sex.
And that means there will be NO sexual tension…
(and it also means there will be NO girls in your bed)
See Also
How to Spark “Sexual Tension”
So what can you do to turn the tables and make sure your operating from Need #1 when it counts. To guarantee you always give off that “sexual vibe” that
women can’t resist?
Well, the good news is, I recorded a short video that shows you exactly how to communicate your sexual interest without looking like a sleezeball and getting rejected.
Now, is this trick sneaky? (hell yeah!)
Are you going to be cheating by using it? (you bet)
And the best part is there is nothing special you need to say or do.
In fact, this move is so under the radar she won’t have a clue what you’re up to (this becomes very important for hooking up with your “female friends” or girls at work)
It’s surprisingly easy once you know the secret.
