Dating > Signs > How to Act When a Girl Likes You
by Bobby Rio • Updated: August 24, 2024
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One of the most important things to understand as a man is what to do when things are working with a woman…so you don’t screw it up.
When you use a lot of the material you’re learning about dating and attraction, you’ll start to notice that so many more women are showing you interest and giving you attention.
Girls will start to do and say things that clearly indicate that they like you. sometimes it will be a touch, sometimes a smile, sometimes a compliment, and sometimes they’ll just come out and tell you. BUT these things WILL happen more and more as you get better and better.
And it is very easy to mess things up and quickly lose that attraction she’s feeling if don’t know what to do. So that’s what we’re going to cover in this article.
3 Things to Do When She’s Giving Signs She Likes You
At some point, we’ve all been in the situation, where maybe we’re at a party, and we start talking to a girl, and we hit it off. And she stays near us, she keeps the conversation going, and she’s even ignoring her friends to continue talking to us.
So.. how do we make sure we don’t screw up? Because I can think of plenty of times from my own life, where I was in this situation, and I thought I had it “in the bag”… And then POOF, it was like the “light of attraction” went off in her eyes. And I went from being the attractive guy she was into, to a friendly guy at the party she had zero interest in.
If you’ve ever been in a situation like that, or just wondering how to act when a girl likes you, I want to share some advice that my clients have found valuable.
And it comes down to three things, and these are these three things we’re going to cover:
1.) First, you have to know how to recognize when a girl is into you.
You have to know how to differentiate between a girl who’s being friendly vs. a girl who’s being flirty and giving off legitimate interest signs.
2.) Then you have to know the big mistakes to avoid when a girl is into you, so that her interest doesn’t quickly fade.
3.) And finally, you have to know how to amplify that attraction she’s feeling, so that you can move things along to the next level…
How to Tell if She Likes You?
So let’s start with how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says “I like you?”
Well, it’s very important to remember that women are far more subtle than men (most of the time, that is). Women do SMALL things. A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes she’ll make a comment like “You’re so cute” . But then it’s often gone.
And you’re like, ‘was I imagining that?’
When a man is hitting on a woman, she knows. We’re pretty easy to read. But women are notorious for sending mixed signals.
Here’s something interesting…
A lot of times, her “interest signals” will be a test, and we fail. Meaning, she’ll make a comment that reveals interest in us, and we respond in a way that causes her to go, “wait a minute, maybe this guy isn’t as attractive as I thought”.
So, a big thing to understand with women is this: Just because she’s doing something that says “I like you,” don’t think that it means, “I like you no matter what.”
Attraction isn’t black or white. It’s more of a thermostat, that is continually increasing or decreasing based on HER FEELING in the moment.
So, what I tell guys is, it’s good to have a way to test her interest level. This way you at least have a barometer of where you are RIGHT NOW.
Now there are a variety of “tests” you can use to gage her interest. But I’m going to give you the easiest one. And that’s to see if she’ll MOVE with you.
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If you’re at a party talking to a woman, you can ask her if she wants to take a walk with you outside to get some fresh air? Or if the two of you are standing, you can say, “let’s see if we can find somewhere to sit”. If she says yes and follows you, it’s a sign that at the moment she’s interested.
It’s very similar if you’re on a date with a woman. See if she’ll change venues. If you’re in coffee shop with her, say “There’s a great Gelatto place down the street, want to go grab one?” Normally if she’s NOT into you, she’ll say “Maybe next time”. So if she goes, it’s a sign that she’s feeling some level of attraction and wants to keep the date going.
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Avoid Turning into a “Nice Guy” When You Get Interest From Her
That said, It’s much better to interpret subtle “I like you” cues as “I like you for a second… Because if you start acting lame, it will all be over in an instant. Unfortunately for most guys, they take “I like you” signals to mean “You’ve won my approval, now you can do whatever you want”.
And what do they do?
They turn into a total “nice guy” and wind up ruining it. So, usually, you’re being fun, challenging, teasing her or whatever… And then she does something that signals interest in you, and all of the sudden now you’re acting different. You start talking about different things. You’re giving her compliments. You’re being NICER.
And what happens?
She goes “Oh, he seemed cool, but he’s just like all the other guys”
Remember, most of the time when you’re saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original., it’s something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from other guys.
Why does this happen?
A lot of times, it’s because guys, “nice guys” especially, we do something I call: Playing NOT to LOSE. Instead of playing to WIN.
It means once we sense we have her approval, we get scared of losing it. So we change our behavior, even if that behavior was what was attracting her in the first place. And what that tells her is that you’re not used to a girl liking you. So the first sign you get from a cute girl and you go into “nice guy” mode.
If She Likes You, You MUST Escalate
Now before I tell you what to do, I want to tell you one more mistake I know I made plenty of times. And that’s something I call “selling past the close”. It’s a term from sales, where someone was ready to buy… But the salesman keeps trying to sell them, and winds up talking them out of buying.
This why at a certain point on a date or when talking to a woman at a bar or a party, you have to make a decision; Can I escalate tonight?
Meaning, can I move it to the next level.
The next level can be something as simple as sitting and rubbing her hand as you talk. But it’s something that solidifies the attraction, and introduces some intimacy between you and her.
Now, if things are going well, that could mean inviting her back to your place for a drink. If you’re somewhere alone, it could mean leaning for a kiss.
Now.. sometimes it just won’t be possible to escalate. And if its NOT possible to escalate, then you’re always better off leaving on a high note.
Because what often happens is, you’re at a party, a woman is interested, and now for the next two hours you keep talking to her. And talking… And talking… And trying to impress her, and tell another joke… And at some point, there’s a law of diminishing returns.
And that “attraction thermostat” will start dropping.
How to Increase the Attraction She Feels When She Likes You
Ok, so what about when you first notice the attraction, how do you increase and amplify it?
There’s something that women call “Sexual Tension.” It’s also known as Chemistry or Attraction as well.
When you flirt with a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way… You will create this tension.
This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like “You’re cute” or “I like you.”
It’s the tension that makes her feel it and say it.
This Is EXACTLY When You Need To Dial Things Up. Don’t diffuse it all by saying “You’re cute yourself” or “I like you, too.” Or by smiling like a jackass who just won the lottery.
This kind of thing releases the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling and instantly kills it.
So when she likes you, and you’re getting the signs she likes you, this is when you want to INCREASE the tension.
So if a woman says “you’re really cute.” And you look at her and smirk, and say “I know”. You’re increasing the tension, because you’re doing the opposite of what she expects, which weirdly draws her in more.
Women are drawn to this tension.
You can also amplify the tension with a technique called Push/Pull. The idea behind it, is you’re both pulling her toward you, then pushing her away.
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Examples of Push/Pull
“You’re adorable… like my bratty little sister”
Or a physical example of push pull would be maybe…
“You’re adorable, give me a hug.” Hug her for a second, then go: “Ok, that enough.” And playfully push her away.
Make sense?
That’s one way to keep the tension alive.
How else can you do it?
Another example of this tension is when things start getting quiet. Now, the average guy is really uncomfortable with tension… So anytime there is a lull in the conversation, he feels an immediate need to say something to break the silence.
But instead, lean into it.
Be comfortable with things slowing down for a minute. And use that moment to increase the tension by holding eye contact slightly longer than normal. Just kind of look at her, and don’t be in a rush to talk right away.
I alluded to this earlier, but at some point you want to escalate. Because if you don’t escalate you wind up in the friend zone.
This is where a lot of guys mess up. I used to be guilty of this. Where I’d have this great conversation with a girl, I’d be getting the interest signals.
And then one of two things would happen:
1) I just wouldn’t know how to move things forward.
2) I have this hesitation, because part of me would be like, she seems to like me, but if I make a move, she’ll think “oh, he’s like all the other guys just looking for sex”
So instead, I’d try to parlay the interaction into another meetup, telling myself I’ll escalate things then.
But really, ESCALATION is ATTRACTIVE.
Because, again, it increases the tension.
Now escalation doesn’t mean you have to lunge in for a kiss.
One of the simplest things you can do is when she says something interesting, or she maybe she says something you can tell she’s trying to impress you. Just look at her, with a sort of “good job” expression.
And put your hand up like you’re going to high five her.
And when she puts her hand out to yours, just sort of grip it for a second, caress her hand for a second, and then go back to talking.
Or instead you can say, “let’s grab a drink”, put your hand out, and hold her hand and guide her through the party holding hands.
Now you’ve added that intimacy, that is attractive, and increases the tension.
Now, this framework of creating and amplifying tension.
This continues throughout the dating process.
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Do You Pass Her “Attraction Tests?”
Do you know how to respond to the various ‘tests’ and situations that commonly occur with girls?
Because there are a lot of make or break moments with women, and what i found is that a lot of guys are responding in the WRONG WAY in these common situations.
So, what I did was put together a short 7 question quiz…
This quiz contains common situations you’ll run into, and then asks you how you’d respond in each situation.
Its multiple choice.
And then you immediately get your results to know how you did.
What’s funny is a lot of guys assume they’re going to get every question right, then get 5 out of 7 questions wrong.
The quiz is free, you get your results instantly, and you can take the quiz here.
